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Need some dating advice

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by RuralMedAU, Jan 3, 2010.

  1. RuralMedAU

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    So Ive been talking to this guy for a few months now and we have met twice. He lives like 6 hours from me. We talk everyday in some form or fashion. We really connect and enjoy talking to each other. The problem is that I don't know when the right time is to try and progress the relationship or even how to do it. Any help would be great.
     
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    You presumably know he's gay and all that, right? OK then.

    What I'd do is ask. "I know it's gonna be really tough being as far apart as we are, but would you consider actually being my boyfriend?"

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    Is there a softer approach I can use to gauge his interest and not be as blount
     
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    Not really, if you want to get your point across. You can try angling in that direction with something like "I'd really like a boyfriend. I think someone like you would be perfect, but the distance thing worries me." Or ask "What sort of person would you like your boyfriend to be like?" and then, whatever he answers, ask "Is there any way you'd accept someone like me as a boyfriend?" But whatever you do, you'll have to be ready for rejection. He might not like you like that, or he might not want to get involved with someone that far away. This doesn't me he doesn't like YOU. It means he doesn't like the idea of a relationship. Or he might want time to mull it over. If so, give it to him.

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained. :slight_smile:

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    "I like you, really like you."
     
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    How about asking out on a date~ make sure it's clear it's a date date.
     
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    I agree with Andromeda, just ask him if he'd like to go on a date sometime... That's how things naturally progress. No one says "Hey wanna be my boyfriend" unless they're in middle school... So just say something like, "I'd like to take you out to dinner sometime" or something like that. Dont ask him, just tell him it's something you'd be interested in doing.
     
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    i think wait to meet up with him in person. hopefully soon. waiting too long may result in one or other of you losing interest. then i guess go out with him, look him in the eyes, make your move... tell him how you feel if he responds well. all sorted :slight_smile:
     
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    We have met in person twice.
     
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    ok, well things are going good with him, but now this guy I was in love with about a year ago has broken up with his BF and he texts me tonight and says he really misses me and wants to see me