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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Andromeda, Jan 18, 2010.

  1. Andromeda

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    I was watching this music video called, "Sexy People" by Lolene, and then my sister came into the room, so I was leaving my other websites (facebook, and some gay forum not this one). But she saw the video "Sexy People" for about 5 seconds because firefox was going to slow. And she noticed the song title, and she went "ewww I'm telling mama, I am telling grandma, blah blah". I know she was referring to the video because it's all she saw.

    Then I told her its on the billboards, and she went "sexy b***h is! I am asking *brother name* if it is". Then I went upstairs and gave her $20 to shut up. She's ten years old.

    I ask her what she saw and she said lady was dancing. But in the video its really gay, kind of like a lady gaga type way. So I am assuming she's going to search it up, since she saw the name.

    And I have a feeling she wants to tell now since she's all jumpy now.

    Am I worrying too much about this?
     
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    absolutely, if she saw a video that really ISNT porn or even gay, then just let her tell, it's no big deal. And if someone gets upset say you deserve your privacy.
     
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    $20 is like winning the lottery for a 10 year old. :lol:

    Is she prone to telling on you? If so, tell your family she was lying. Kids are prone to lying anyway, so they may believe you. If not, tell them it wasn't anything nasty.
     
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    Plus, if your sisters 10 you probably dont have to worry about her outing you... she probably doesnt even know gay people exist yet lol
     
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    She isn't, but I don't have anything for her to tell about me. But my mother makes the house feel like we're watching bad things, like porn stuff. And I think it rubs off on her, but she makes my brother look like a saint.

    I cover my tracks pretty well, since I have a picture of Jenna Jameson on my floor in her bikini. There's nothing really gay about me except my music, and hearing even one of my favorite song would be like her winning the lottery.

    And I think she knows of gay people, but it isn't part of her life. She acts older than what she is too.

    I think she was referring to "nasty" in a heterosexual way.
     
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    Well my first piece of advice, dont worry about it, you'll be fine. My second piece of advice, if you dont like that picture of Jenna jameson, you're better off NOT trying to fool your family with it lol. Considering you know you're atleast not straight (your other post leads me to believe you're not entirely gay either) why make it hard on yourself later on when you might want to come out? Dont build up the idea that you're straight in your familys head if you're not straight.
     
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    well they shouldn't be going into my room. and i actually do like that picture of jenna jameson.

    I don't care about them thinking I am straight when I am not. As long as I have control over the situation it's okay.
     
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    20$.... she's either gonna tell or not. u just wasted 20$. Plus it's not a big deal. How's she gonna describe it to people? Just say a friend sent you the vid or something.
     
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    well i don't care about the $20, she needed it anyways for something in school, so i was going to give her it anyways.

    plus i give her money every so often, i told her if she lost 20 lbs for valentines ill give her $100 to go to abercrombie store. I don't want a fat sister, so that might persuade her when she's standing next to me..
     
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    "A friend sent it to me, I don't know what it is.."
    "I clicked on the wrong video, oops."
    "It was part of a playlist my friend suggested."

    All valid and believable excuses. But really, you needn't be so worried. I doubt your mother or grandmother are going to suddenly jump up and shout "YOU'RE GAY!" because of whatever YouTube video happened to be on the screen when your sister wandered in. Don't stress over this, it'll be a waste of your energy.
     
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    So what are today's lessons?

    1. Your response made it clear that it was something you didn't want her to see you watching. And that you didn't want your parents to know about. If you treat something like it's no big deal, your sister will treat it like it's no big deal.

    2. Don't pay off your siblings unless you want to become First Bank of Andromeda's ATM.

    3. Lock your doors.

    Lex
     
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    blah, blah, blah. I mean, come on dude.. .. ..

    1. There is nothing wrong with being gay, partially gay, or simply not entirely straight.

    Get so you know this in your heart. Learn it, know it, love it. That is step no. 1. Until you do you will experience turmoil, external yes but mostly internal. There is nothing wrong with being straight. or not straight.

    2. After you get past no. 1, then live your daily live with authentic integrity. Be yourself. Always. No pretending and no pretenses permitted.

    3. Then give your little sister $20 to tell on you! It will give you the perfect opportunity to explain a portion of your sexuality to your parent(s). I know it sounds funny, but read on this forum how many of us not completely out struggle to bring up our own sexuality for discussion. Once someone else has introduced the topic then our only challenge is to be honest, with ourselves and others.

    4. Always keep in mind that Love Conquers ALL! The only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Family members and others who have true love for us will accept this part of our sexuality, usually without too much adjustment or time passage. Next time you have a spare $20 send it to CRS for Hatian relief. 99% of funds donated reach the target. Red Cross's percentage is well above 50%, but quite a bit short of that for CRS. Cheers. matt

    Cheers. matt
     
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    Lol. You don't want a fat sister? Sorry, that sounded really superficial. I'm sure you didn't intend it that way.
     
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    ur biggest mistake is to show her that u are worried about it
     
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    you gave her $20!!!!