Is It Too Early To Want To Find a Guy? Need Advice Please!

I found my boyfriend when I said to myself that I wasn't going to look for a boyfriend until after college and I settled. I found him when I least expected to find someone.

Do you go to your school's GSA? If not, try there and see if you can become friends with someone.

I do not recommend a random hookup because it isn't worth it and you don't know how safe it is. Good luck.

 

I say go for it, but be careful!! If you come on to the wrong person it will spread like wild fire!

 

Well it kind of depends how old you are. If you are old enough to go out and drive on your own then no problem! But if you have to have your parents drive you out to a date, might not be the easiest thing to do. Parents are smart and they know when you are trying to hide something from them

I would also say look to see if your school has a GSA. At my school we don't have one so I am working on creating on because there are always people out there with the same situation as you out there that need the support and love!

- Justin

 

there is nothing wrong with wanting a boyfriend, and experimenting is part of coming out, but don't think that getting a guy in your life is suddenly going ym make everything ok. that it will make that odd feeling go away. You do need time to adjust to this change in your life.

 

I can totally understand how you're feeling. Being able to accept that you're gay yourself lets a whole lot of 'pieces' fall into place inside, and suddenly lots of things make sense. At the same time you want to perhaps make up for lost time and get on with life. You've perhaps missed out on dating opportunities in high school because of your orientation - even if you didn't realize it at the time.

However - a warning. The emotions that are associated with that first real life crush are VERY powerful! That's why teenagers seem so crazy at times! But you expect that of younger people. For me - at 35 years of age - I was having those feelings for the first time, and it was really weird! So just be aware that the feelings might come on pretty strong - so be ready for them.

Otherwise, why not? As suggested, go to the next meeting of the LGBT group on you campus. Get to know other people who can relate to how you're feeling. Good luck!