so, i havnt been on in a while so this is like my return from a non-posting hiatis lol anyways ill cut to the chase... my friend who i believed to be 'straight' recently put his interested in on facebook to both men and women. well, i was pretty excited because i think hes kinda cute. not that i can see myself dating him or anything, but still i was excited. but talking it over with other friends, we came to the conclusion that this could b a joke. he is kind of a jokester when it comes to things like this. but he still hasnt changed it and its been about a week now. i always knew he liked women- that was a fact, i could tell. but at the same time i couldnt help but think that mayb he wouldnt mind men either. like at least just for sex.. graphic i know lol but it was a suspicion that i had that he liked both. then he put that info up and now i have no idea what to think. i think the biggest thing is that id like to have another friend (male) thats interested in men as well- even if he still likes and prefers women. i know other gay guys but i cant see myself being close friends with them because were so different. with him, i can. i dont want anything out of it like a relationship or a friend with benefits kinda thing (even though i wouldnt mind the latter) but i dont want to confront him on it cause i dont wanna look stupid and send him the wrong impression that i like/want him or anything. i wish he was and that hed talk to me about it but i know its not gonna happen. what are your views on this? i need some opinions desperately... thanks in advance
I would be like. "Dude I think someone hacked your facebook." He'd say "What are you talking about?" or something like that. and I would say "Well it says that you play for both teams now! I know I'm awesome but I didn't think I could bring you to the dark side." *insert laughter* And he'd either tell you that he was just joking or it's the real deal. : ) Hope I helped! You have one thing going for you. He already knows you're gay and he's still cool with you. Good luck! ^-^
MF's idea seems to be a good one. Just send him a (private) message on facebook - "Nice to see you're part of the dark side now...or did someone hack your account and change it to 'interested in men and women'?" Lex
I had a friend whose facebook said men and women, but I think that can sometimes mean that they are simply friends with men and women alike, and not romantically interested. Plus he later changed it to just women, and I was sad.
I would just say, "Hey! Now we can check out guys together!" Then you can offer to be his wingman when you guys go to a gay 18+ club. (They still have those in NY, right? I mean they should in NYC at least.)
I think mindfreak's idea is absolutely brilliant, though Joey's is equally nonthreatening... one way or another, i think it's worth investigating a little bit
Friends aren't confusing... Speculating about what they really mean instead of asking them directly is confusing.
i want to but its not that easy! hes not really the kind to just dish the information... plus i barely see him except when were at school... man i tell ya, im waiting for the right moment to arise cause just bringing it up out of nowhere would b too suspicous
