to come out to my dad.. only one problem my dad has got to be the most homophobic person i have ever met.. not accepting at all for background reason this is why i have not come out to him yet my parents divorced when i was 6 months old .. i had regular contact with him up until i was 11 and my grandfather past away .. the grief from that and self blame made me distance myself from that side of my family.. so from that point on i rarely seen him or even spoke to him.. then when iw as 21 i started going to visit at least 3 times a year and calling weekly.. (it's long distance) and he is trying to make up for the past and his past mistakes ect.. and i am scared to drop this on him for fear that he might leave me again yeah i know kinda like my mom thing .. but this is more scarey .. LOL
i feel for you! i'm kinda in the same boat. i've been in europe for nearly 3 1/2yrs away from home. my folks also divorced, but i was 'bout 7. but the contact with my dad was/is not so good. he's really churchy! but coming back to house with my mom and step-dad has been hard. i've been here since friday 14 oct, and one day pasted and it felt like i was pushed back into my closet! it's been hard. my step-dad i think will take it good, mom will need some time. i would say don't rush this subject. when you feel ready to tell him you'll be ready. i'm not one with great advice on this 'cause i havn't done it myself. but right now if you can't see your father understanding who you are, then save this for another time. i know it's hard. take it slow, don't rush, everything will be fine! you've got friends here who are here to help. justin
I am terrified of comming out to my father for similar reasons to yours. So I can relate to your situation... all I can tell you is the same old adivce, be sure that you have emotional support, either friends or family when you come out to him. Not necesarily in the same room, but have them close. Also, if you fear his reaction might be violent, be sure to protect yourself, or to be in a public place. Other than that, all I can tell you is that my thoughts are with you, and be strong! it will all be ok in the end.
my dad i am pretty sure of the fact that my dad wouldn't go violent on me .. he's a calm and level headed person .. just very homophobic .. it's weird really like i know i will have my one little sister with me when i sit my dad and my step mom together to tell them .. hell it might even happen on november 24-25
They say it's preferrable not to come out during big holidays and I'm going to assume based on your reference that you're American and that those days, of course, are US Thanksgiving. You might want to consider an alternative date.
actually i am canadian LOL so nope those arn't big holiday days here .. but they might be celebrating my dad's birthday then LOL .. so no i was going to hint around it and shit but not really say nothin
Oh that's ironic because I'm Canadian too. I just figured since you specifically mentioned those two days...
Coming out on set holidays is an interesting topic, and can be ideal since usually everyone is together. However, if coming out doesn't go well then these days are usually remembered in a negative way. For instance, if someone came out to their parents on christmas, and their parents didn't take it well, then in later years christmas wouldn't be enjoyed as much by their parents, since it will remind them that their son/daughter is gay. But sometimes coming out on holidays is unavoidable and since they are your days off, it will be more convient. Is thanksgiving even a holiday in canada? It isn't really celebrated in Australia, so if it isn't celebrated there either theres nothing to worry about Dave
We have Thanksgiving in Canada... we just celebrate it at a completely different time: the 2nd Monday in October. So our Thanksgiving is usually about 2 months before the American one.
