first pllease leave political views out of this. But my dad has a friend and this couple we go out with all the time to dinner(parents are divorced and i live with my mom btw) so not a lot of the time im with my dad but when i am were are usually with ted and linda. They love to get drunk smoke and trash talk. So its all about Obama and shit, and then trashiung talking my school which they dont go to which they children dont go to but they WERE some what invovled with our football field. Well linda sent me an email about obama like a joke she said i sent her an email back basically saying i dont care u need to stop talkin trash and shit like that. She replied with im concerned about u it was a joke you need to stop comparing religion to church which i honestly wasnt really doing. and she has the nerve to say she doesnt talk like that at all. So then i was like wow u surprise me at least won up to it becuase u do why in the hell do u think my sister and i (sister is 18 im 15) always pull out a book or something else becuase we dont want to hear it. So basically my dad wants to have dinner but i need tot ell him not with them and not while he is drinking or at least not drinking that much. Becuase one he doesnt accept me and thinks im so depressed angry kid 24/7. So IM PISSED to say the least. it just angers me so. I need help like im ready to say fuck him and kick his ass out of my life so yeah thanks for listening or reading
It might be intimidating to speak this directly to your dad, but it would be completely appropriate for you to say "dad, I'd really like to spend time with you but I'm not comfortable hanging out with ted and linda." You're not judging them when you say this, you're merely telling your dad what you need to stay in relationship with him. You'll hear from other helpful people so if this doesn't click, fear not. Peace,
Really listen to what they are saying, and come up with intelligent responses. Try and leave swearing out of it. You might get into a really good political debate, which will benefit all of you-as long as you keep it clean. No name calling (unless Michele Bachmann comes up..hehe), no curse words, only the facts. If health care comes up, state your opinion and why you feel that way. Say you're scared about the debt. Say you're an ardent capitalist and want the government to stay out if health care. Say you're a total socialist and don't care how much you get taxed as long as health care is affordable to all. It doesn't matter what your view is, just be able to back it up, have thought carefully about it, and explain yourself articulately and eloquently. As for the jokes, keep 'em clean, but also be able to laugh at your own political party's shortcomings, as well as be able to dish 'em right back at Ted and Linda. And if they're drunk, well, they still may be able to talk politics...Some people have that ability (especially if they aren't the angry-drunk type_. Regardless, drunk people can be fun to play mind games with.
I agree with the Padre. Let your dad know that you'd like to spend time with just him. Spending time with him and his friends just doesn't cut it for you. Give him suggestions of what you'd like to do instead with him and your sister - because I'll admit that as a dad, I'm sort of clueless! Maybe you'd like to go to a movie with him, or to the museum, or bowling. Offer up an alternative, and decline the invitation to dinner.
