Today I was reading a coming out story at another site and the kid who wrote it was kicked off his house, he was really young and i got really pissed off! I mean, how can some parents be such coldharted people, they're suposed to love u under any condition, but for some reason, being a homo is the exeption. I just want to know (if its not a problem, obviously) if something similar has happened to u when u came out to somebody, some people forget we are in the 21st century!!! being gay or bi or a lesbian is totally normal right now! Anyways, what was ur worst coming out experience, and could u solve it??? I have only comed out to 2 friends, and everything was ok (because they're bi i guess), but i would like to know what to expect from people when deciding to tell them.
I came out recently and my dad wasn't too accepting about it. But since then we talked and he's starting to accept it. Not everyone is going to accept it but people might not react the way you think. I hope things work out for you.
Came out, nearly got kicked out, then went back into the closet. It's funny I bet our parents would love us still if we were murderers, rapists, whatever, but being gay? Oh GOD no.
My only advice with this would be not to take people's immediate reaction to heart. One of my friends who wasn't so keen on the idea ended up coming around after a little while, and now he is one of my closest; just remember to give people room to breathe if they don't seem ecstatic about your sexuality and you should be fine :icon_bigg
While it seems right to focus on the worst thing that could happen, I think you already know exactly what your parents and friends will say, if you only think about it. Your deep-down reactions that you expect first, are usually right, and they aren't usually the worst thing possible, if bad at all. Just make sure you have a safety net somewhere if you expect things to go poorly.
Worst experiences: -Parents. I won't go into it. I have a few times on EC already. -At work last summer. I work with locals in the region and this man came up to me, a total stranger and really creepy looking. He's married and has kids... He said I was sexy. He noticed the short hair and less feminine attire (Ok, I was working outside, how feminine do I have to be in 40C weather, really?). He asked if I had a boyfriend. He kept coming onto me even though I backed up, and had a stick in hand, ready to fight or flee. I lied, and said yes. He said we must make hot sex. I kept getting uncomfortable. I said that he was very bit and muscly and that he's very protective. He still didn't get the picture. I reported the incident to my boss and she said I didn't have to talk to him so my coworker spoke with him about the job we were doing at his place from that point forward. -I had just finished clubbing with a friend. I had no where to crash since I was in a city a few hours from home. She suggested we crash at her friends place since her place was a mess and that way she could just get up and go to work after waking up hours later. We went there, he turned on porn, and continued drinking his beer. He seemed like a real redneck type (sorry if I offend here). But he asked if I was dating. I told him I was single but that guys weren't my thing. He stood up, outraged saying that if he had known a dyke was coming to his place, he would have told me to get the hell out. Apparently he only likes women at his place, even as friends that like men only... >< My friend calmed him down and he passed out and I slept with one eye open. -Me and a gf were at a party primping in the bathroom when a guy came in. We went to close the door on him and he shouted "You're fags!" :dry:
I can tell you about my best friend's coming out. He's from a rural area, a small village in the middle of nowhere. He was kinda forced out of the closet when his father caught him in a ... let's say compromising situation, I won't go into it. Well, it ended with his father totally flipping out, running to the only pub, getting drunk and yelling: "my son is a dirty faggot, I conceived a fag". Of course, the whole village knew in a matter of minutes. Luckily at that point my friend was about to leave for college anyway, he moved to another town wher he later met his soulmate and I'm happy to report that his dad seems to have accepted the situation now, they have a "don't ask, don't tell" unspoken agreement and my friend even visits his family once in a while with his boyfriend. I guess his dad needed a few years to digest the whole thing.
^^ Damn that is harsh. Glad it all turned out ok though. The worst thing that happened to me (which is nothing next to everything else really) was seeing my dad cry. I had only seen him cry twice before that and seeing him so sad and vulnerable left me hating myself for a while because I had caused it. He later came around and told me it wasn't anyone's fault. He still really doesn't like the idea, but he at least doesn't blame anyone anymore.
wow!, they've been ugly, i guess u kind of know what to expect from some people, but unexpected things can happen, who knows
It is very sad when young people get kicked out of their homes for this. I heard that something like 30 to 40% of homeless teenagers are glbt depending on the area they live in. I think that is everyone's worst fear before coming out. Its hard to believe that people really think this could be a choice! All I can say is that PFLAG is a wonderful organization that strives to keep this from happening. We provide the resources for education and we provide support to families. You just need to get your parents to contact us or provide the materials for them to read. You also need to remember that it takes you years to accept your sexuality. Give your parents some time to accept too.
