Yet another post of the same man...

dude! brake up with the kid already. He treats you like shit and he even says it to your face. I know that you "love" him and all, but its not healthy to be with someone like that.

Emotionally abusing someone is just as bad as physical abuse. Would you keep going out with him if he hit you?

As bad as it will hurt. It would be better to just end it and start the healing process so you can find the next guy that will be much better for you.

 

This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for you to be pursuing. You said that he's using you and doesn't seem interested in having more of a relationship with you. He makes you cry when you think of him. Unless he decides that he wants to be more committed, and stops using you, then I'm concerned that you're going to just keep getting hurt by waiting for this guy to want to be with you.

However, you're not going to be able to get past this overnight. And, you say that you haven't found anyone else who wants to start a relationship at the moment. Well, maybe it's better not to rush right into a new relationship. Give yourself some time to heal from this guy. You also said that you feel like you've been drawing away from your friends. Perhaps try to get more involved with them. Not only will this improve your relationship with them, but they can help you to get through what you're going through now.

This person, as they are now, is not good for you. And, I know you can move past this. Don't wait forever for them to be the person you so desperately want. (*hug*)

 

You don't need to cut him out completely, but you can try and spend some of the time you normally spend with him, with other friends. Or, try to make your relationship with him more "friend-like". It just sounds like, from what you've said, about he feels and how he makes you feel that trying to have a relationship at the moment is just hurting the both of you. If he changes then perhaps a relationship could work. But, it things continue the way they are, especially with him saying he doesn't want a relationship, then I don't see how anything will change.

 

It seems that you have a "needy complex". Yes, you do. I'm sorry, but from what you've posted, it's true. It's like the puppy who's kicked by his owners, but comes back wagging his tail, hoping they'll treat him properly the next time. But no... his owners won't.

These seem to be traits of the guy you'r ehanging out with. Perhaps you're with him because you're lonely and you worry that you won't be able to find another bi/questioning/gay dude in your area. Perhaps he makes you feel good about yourself some times with his sense of humour or cute comments. But then later he cuts your legs out from under you. He does this to likely feel needed himself, and he has some insecure issues of his own-and he also seems like a douchebag because he vents his negative feelings and aggression onto you, even if he's "Just joking" some of the time.

I know a guy that treats other guys like this. I've told him he should knock it off, grow up and learn to vent his aggression and mean streak into a hobby or sport, instead of other people.

For now, I think it would be best to cut him out of your life. At least for a while. YES. I know, it is likely hard because you're not sure how to. But just do it. I'm sure you have a friend or two elsewhere. If you don't, start making new friends who will treat you like the decent human being you are, not like a piece of garbage that this guy seems to think you are.

If he confronts you, stand up to him! Tell him that you feel he's really insecure and that he should stop treating you horribly and start respecting other people. And then? Walk away.

It'll take time, but you need to start standing up for yourself, and looking in the mirror to see the good person you are. (I'm sure you are). You're worth it, so stand up for yourself and get on the road to make your life positive.