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over reacting to homophobia?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by dudethere, Apr 23, 2010.

  1. dudethere

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    I will do my best to keep this short and sweet. Here it is.

    Today my boyfriend and I went to our local mall. We didn't hold hands, kiss, or even seem like a couple together.

    We went into a store browsed the upper level and went to take the elevator down to the second floor (still within the store) and we decided to I sapose "make out" very briefly in the elevator. Under one minute for sure. We left the elevator and browsed some more before leaving the store.

    We were about 15ft away from the store when a women comes out and says, "Boys come here."

    We walk over and she says, "There are cameras in the elevators so don't ever do that again."



    Am I over reacting if I was extreamly offended because I doubt the reactions would have been the same had we had been a straight couple.

    Feed back is, as always appreciated.
     
  2. NoLeafClover

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    Don't ever do that again?

    She strikes me as plain old dumb.

    I'd be offended. Plus the twat waited till you were out of the store, only to call you back over and bitch? She needs a life.

    /rawr
     
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    wait wait wait... some lady? if its just some lady, the fact that you walked over in the first place confuses me.

    if i stepped out of an elevator and then some random lady tells me to "come here", id give her a "WTF?" type look, :rolle: roll my eyes and walk the other way :lol:

    i'd side with you being ok at being offended... 'extremely' might be a bit much... she didnt exactly say something outright homophobic from what you say P:
     
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    I think what the OP means is that, the lady wouldn't likely have said that to a hetero couple...

    However, by "make out" do you mean just kiss passionately? Or do you mean grope and start to grind and stuff? Because the latter might be going a bit too far... even if it is a hot, racy fantasy you have.
     
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    Yes my two questions are for you in collaboration of above posts lol:

    1. Was this lady like a security person or was she just an employee?

    and 2. Was it overly passionate like with groping as Rae asks, or are we talking just passionate kiss?

    The thing that kinda pisses me off is you hear about straight couples who even go so far as have sex in an elevator (if you know breaks down or something haha or they stop it) and they don't get all yelled at (unless they're politicians, etc), yet if two innocent boys kiss, "DON'T DO THAT AGAIN!"....I'm positive they wouldn't have even said anything about a straight couple kissing either.
     
  6. British Lad

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    if it was just a kiss then teller to "go away" anything more then well..
     
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    First of all, if she's a security employee, then she should be arrested and prosecuted.

    I would have made a stink about it right there and then. I would have grabbed my bf and started snogging him with my hands down his pants right in front of her for a good couple of minutes. Then I would have said "There, was that better?"
     
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    Hear, hear!!
     
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    Wou :confused: first of all i wished i could be like you JamesENL!! i would never be able to do that T_T (considering i have someone to do it of course xD)
    And :confused: where do you live? Not even on my country they would do that!! The security people would just laugh or something :confused:
     
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    Ignore her and move on. Some people have too much time on their hands.
     
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    Eh, you could give her the benefit of the doubt.

    Maybe she would have gotten mad at a straight couple doing it...

    She might just be an old coot who is lonely and hates seeing any PDA (even if its just public for the security guards)...

    But most likely it was because you were gay.

    I'm interested to hear how you reacted to her when she said that.

    I also didn't know people actually watched the security cameras. I thought it was only if something was stolen or they needed to check for criminal activity etc... didn't know they actively watched them...
     
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    Well im the OP's bf :grin: and yea, it was just a nice long kiss, nothing to fancy :wink:
    and she was like a manager or some such thing, she was probably
    just bored and thought itd nice to chase after the gay boys :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Good to see a couple on here :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: sorry that person did that to you
     
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    Who knows her reasoning behind this...maybe she was actually trying to protect you. She may have thought if somebody else would have seen this, you could have been beat up or worse. I would have simply said "thanks for your concern" and leave it at that.
     
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    That is a good point beckyg
     
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    Arrested? And prosecuted? For having an opinion? She in no way caused any physical or problematic emotional issues, sure, her opinion may be a bad one, but she shouldn't be arrested for it. Talked to about and maybe some anti-homophobia classes, yeah.

    Out of the store? I'm guessing she was an employee?
     
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    While that's a good point becky, I don't think that was the case. If it was the woman would of said something around those lines. But instead she said "there are cameras in the elevator, don't ever do that again". The woman emphasized "that" which I'm assuming is a quote FROM her not just making it up. So emphasizing that means she can't even call it kissing, she makes it sound like making out was dirty or bad or w/e. Like saying "THAT" to me means she thinks its something disgusting.

    But that's just my opinion.
     
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    "Or what? You'd have me arrested for being gay?"
     
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    She's a dumbass and not worth your time. Forget about that bitch and move on with your life and your boyfriend.
     
  20. dude99

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    If it was a straight couple that did that she would not have bothered.