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Why do I always seem to fall for people where I always end up being hurt?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by dude99, Apr 30, 2010.

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  1. dude99

    dude99 Guest

    Why do I always fall for people where I always end up being hurt? I cant remember the last time I fell for someone where I never did get hurt. All the times I can ever recall on me really falling for someone, even now and last year, and a few years ago, 15 years ago, 20 years ago and after getting to know them I always end up getting hurt. Anyone else have this problem.
     
    #1 dude99, Apr 30, 2010
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  2. dude99

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    I guess not to get hurt is to ever try to fall for anyone else again. I am sick of it but its impossible for me to never fall for anyone.
     
    #2 dude99, Apr 30, 2010
  3. Jim1454

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    I can't really answer your question. I think we all develop our social skills and our ability to be in good relationships at different speeds and at different times in our lives.

    You're going to have a good relationship with someone when you have a good relationship with yourself. If you feel really good about yourself and you really feel like you have something to offer that person - THEN you're more likely to have a good relationship with them.

    So... Keep working on you. Make sure you're as happy and confident and positive as you can be without being in a relationship. People like that are a magnet for other happy and confident and positive people.

    And you're right - to guarantee never getting hurt again would require never trying to develop a relationship with anyone again. And I don't think that's a healthy or rewarding alternative.
     
    #3 Jim1454, Apr 30, 2010
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