So, as part of my quest to get my ex out of my sexual system, as it were, I've been thinking about my inability to fantasize about other guys. This isn't entirely a new thing. Before I was with him, I couldn't fantasize about sex, period, and before I started looking at porn it took me forever to climax. Not that I mind looking at porn but a lot of people here have said that they've found their fantasies are more fun than porn (this is technically true for me, too), and lately I've started thinking about my ex even while watching porn. Which basically sucks because I hate his guts and feel unclean, hurt, and used when I imagine having sex with him. Any advice? I know I'll probably always find him hot, but I'd really like not to imagine him every time I get off.
Try to remember all those bad feelings when he pops into your head everytime you masturbate. And also, meet other guys.
agreegeous on the "meet other guys" bit. and to make this post original, i'd say maybe try to imagine yourself as using him instead of the other way around when you fantasize. think to yourself "i don't care about him anymore, i'm just using his body to get off." that way you may feel like you have more control over him. you could even go as far as to pretend he doesn't want you to think about his image as if it would get him mad if he knew. doesn't matter whether that's the case or not, it's your imagination.
There's nothing wrong with fantasizing about his imaginary twin brother. The one who looks just like him, but is extremely considerate and receptive to your needs. Lex
