Getting Drunk and outing yourself

It depends how much control you have. I'm actually more alert when drunk than when I'm sober. xD Odd but it comes in handy so I've never had this particular problem....

 

It's something that I am really scared about doing. I am completely in the closet and when I'm drunk I want to tell someone. I think I want it to happen (deep down) and be done with it. By the way, if you do drink, don't drink and drive. I made a stupid decision recently concerning drinking and driving. Luckily no one was hurt, but it's costing me a lot of money, it has hurt my reputation and pride, and is going to negatively affect future plans. It isn't worth it. Trust me.

 

I actually get more straight when I've been drinking. Which is a little odd.

 

Naa i don't care anymore. Im out to the main people so its not going to be a major deal if I say something.

 

I like to think of it this way. If I get drunk and I out myself to people, then that's excellent. Then when I come out to them, we're all in a more calm and understanding situation. Being drunk makes it a lot easier to be honest with people... That being said, I drink a good amount (college student lol) and as much as I'v thought about it, even when I'm drunk I haven't said a thing about it to anyone. When you've been working to keep something a secret for so long, chances are you will keep it until you willingly decide it's time to let go and come out. So I dont think you need to worry too much, and if you do, well then you wont need to do it later!

 

It's not foolproof though, I was a little drunk at a party once discussing a friend who may have been bi...I shouted dibs, everyone looked at me weirdly and I said "Wait, no I meant snap. Carry on"

 

Me and my friends just dont drink. ^_^

 

I used to have that fear but it wasn't only for drinking. Before coming out I had to watch everything I said and be very careful not to slip. I was actually pretty good at it but, like you, I felt like it was really holding me down. At one point I couldn't handle it anymore and had to come out xD

If you don't want to come out then I would suggest to get drunk with some of your friends that know. That way you will know how you act when drunk. (Be responsible with it though xD) And you will also learn how horrible getting drunk feels haha

 

Maybe next time you start drinking with your friends, before you get too drunk, you can start staying a bunch of fake stuff. "You know what? Once I killed a giraffe. With my bare hands. Serves the bastard right for trying to eat the leaves out of MY trees." If you start saying crap like that, saying "I'm gay" will be just one more "weird thing he said when he was drunk".

Lex

 

I worried about that too, but it really didn't come up when I was drunk before I was out. I think I'm just really distractable - my mind was everywhere but my sexuality. Thank you, lack of focus! In any event, you can always pretend it didn't happen. It's so easy the next day to be like, "oh man, I was so drunk! I don't remember a thing."

So, you know, nbd. Drink responsibly!

 

i used to be afraid of that too, but i've been blackout drunk and never said a word. i did tell a bunch of friends while drunk once, but i had planned it in advance and the alcohol was just a tool to give me courage lol.

what confuses me is that you want to tell people.. but you don't want to? if you want to tell people i think you should. you can put something off forever because it's scary but in the end it's all just excuses. if it's JUST fear that stands in your way and not some kind of real danger, it's time to overcome it. it's not like they're going to release the hounds on you and begin the hunt right?

 

look, only God can plan life. not saying you believe in God, i myself sit on the border of atheism and agnosticism. but the bottom line is, there are too many uncontrollable variables in the world. saying that you can plan something definitely will almost always fail because odds are some tiny coincidence will change everything, and i mean everything.

so while it's good to let it feel right, don't fool yourself into thinking you will be able to plan that moment, because putting it bluntly, your plans will fail, and you will have to wait again. (this is my tough love side)

 

I vaguely remember wailing to my mum when i was drunk once saying something like "i can't tell you till i'm 18!" (i didn't specify what). I came out to her a month later

But i've only ever got with girls when i'm drunk :S.