I just got an extra push to take action. I'm fucking tired of hiding.

Wow, uhhh. Red flag statement. I hope you wouldn't seriously treat your friend like that.

 

Yeah explain to them that you are gay, but you don't see your friend in that light and that while he's a great guy, he isn't the type of guy you'd date. That probably wouldn't offend him I hope. Or just talk about how just like everyone, you have a type that you like and you're friend just doesn't fit that type. It's better than saying "I have standards" which is just extremely rude.

 

I feel that way sometimes too. Good luck coming out! I get that you're mad but don't make your coming out be out of anger... It won't end well. Generally if you're nice to people And act like it's no big deal, they'll act that way too. So be nice and you'll get nice reacions

 

Hmm... second one this morning! must be someting in the air, or Wednesday is just a good day to come out...

You also sound like you're pretty close to ready to come out. I feel it's best to make sure that you've fully accepted your sexual orientation, and you seem to be there. Then it gets to the point where you can no longer hide or lie or be ashamed of it and the consequences seem to matter less... and you're there as well. So in my books, you're in the right place to come out to the world!

My advice would be to be strategic about it. Think of it as a marathon rather than a race. You want to pace yourself and make sure that the things you do in the beginning help you with the rest of the process. So find someone (close friend, family) who you know will be supportive and tell them first. See what it's like to come out to someone, what the emotions are, how you get over "the hump" in that critical moment when the mouth is open but the words aren't coming out, how they react... All of these will help you get a feel for the tougher ones that might follow. A good first coming out will also help you build confidence and knowledge that there are people on your side (lots of them actually) and that most people will either take it well or won't care at all.

Then come back here and tell us all about it!! Good luck!

 

Don't hyperanalyze things... chances are very good that you'll be wrong or you'll dramatically overestimate their reactions. I'd say if it were possible, step back and look at the facts with a clear mind and you'll probably see the truth about how it will go. But then again having been in your position recently I know how difficult that can be...

 

I agree with what Paco said about school and rumors. Rumors will always float around school about things that aren't true. Somewhat like how me and one of my close friends at school (she's a girl) always walk around with our arms linked together so everyone started rumors that we were dating until the rumor finally got around to people who already know I'm gay and if that subject came up they'd say some like, "Dude they're not dating, he's gay xD."
If everyone is already calling you gay and you are, you have really nothing to lose. I doubt that with people already assuming you're gay finding out that you actually are won't make much of a difference. With that being said, you probably won't have to worry about people wanting to start a physical fight with you.
As for coming out at the end of the school year I'd say go for it. I was going to follow that same plan this year but Christmas break was just a week away and I just wanted it over with. Based on what you've said so far about your school in this and another of your threads, it might be a common topic for a bit but the interest people have in it dies down after a bit and then you're free to go on with your life without constantly hear people gossip about your sexuality.
Coming out to your dad may or may not be a good idea. Considering your other situations you're currently dealing with about your parents and coming out to your dad could possibly go over wrong. If you end up staying with him, although you say he's probably going to be okay with it, and he doesn't accept it how you expected then that could lead to an unhappy environment at home. Though if you're absolutely positive that he'll be perfectly fine with it by all means go for it.