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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by tired_of_lying411, Sep 9, 2007.

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  1. tired_of_lying411

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    A fairly close friend of mine introduced me to another gay friend of hers recently.

    On Friday, we all hung out for about an hour and a half. It was fun, but we were both a little nervous. She told me he thinks I'm cute. *blush* Anyway, I really think I'm developing a crush on him, but he's definitely more muscular and less... 'soft' than me and (although only one year older) has a lot more experience than me. In relationships...

    Anyway, the possibility of... uh, being close... with anyone, really has me kind of freaking out. I'm definitely not ugly, but I'm quite self conscious. I've never kissed anyone, but I kind of like the idea of kissing him. But I don't think I could ever muster the guts to do it... What if I was bad at it? What if I tasted funny? So many scary possible outcomes...

    Anyway, I'm getting ahead of myself, we've only hung out once, but he is living nice and close to me, about 20 minutes away. And he is definitely currently single and will definitely be staying for the entire year. So who knows....


    Any advice?
     
    #1 tired_of_lying411, Sep 9, 2007
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    good to hear that you've possibly got someone in your sights. To be honest, just don't worry about it. What will be will be. The first guy I kissed for example, it wasn't even a consideration I had.... it just happened.

    Just like in the movies, you stare in to each other's eyes and bring yourself in to the kiss without really realising it. That's how it should be done, worry less - enjoy more and don't worry about how you taste (could always take some packets of sauce :wink: )
     
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    I agree - don't sweat it! You're first kiss with him isn't going to determine your fate.

    But you know what? Kissing isn't all that complicated! You'd be surprised.
     
    #3 Jim1454, Sep 9, 2007
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    I love how we're talking about this like it's definitely going to happen. Nothing like the power of positive thinking :icon_bigg

    And I'll definitely be sweating it. Don't you people remember what I'm like? Haha :kiss: = :eek:

    Yeah, it does seem kind of... like a natural thing?... I guess.
     
    #4 tired_of_lying411, Sep 9, 2007
  5. Midnight Angel

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    That's what everyone says, that after a few seconds you know what to do.
     
    #5 Midnight Angel, Sep 9, 2007
  6. winter89

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    My advice... hang out!!! Go see movies or better yet rent movies and watch them together on a comfy couch. It's amazing the things that can happen!:icon_wink
     
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    Just go with the flow , pal

    And dont worry about how you taste or smell, becuase most men like the natural smell or taste of their kissers and are addicted to them and want to come back for more, it's like the special signature taht everyone got

    But if you dont wnat to smell funny after you eat taco and ready to kiss him, chew some gum or candy ect, but most us men liek teh natural things...

    I know how you feel since this is gonan be your 1st kiss, but go for it, once you did, you'll find out how much you like it, of course you'll gonna blush so much, but dont run away like a shy school gurl like in the movie lol

    Good luck

    Right if you can turn on the romance, the kiss'll come easy that you wont even realize it

    listen to a romantic song in a car, driving along the river at nigth under the shining moon and sparkle stars XD XD
     
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    Oh my gosh totally one hundred percent go for it! I mean if he already thinks you're cute... that's like perfect.

    And kissing is really a totally easy thing to do if you just allow yourself to get into it... just say something like, "I've never kissed anyone before but I really want to kiss you" and I'm pretty sure he'll help you figure out how it's done. :grin: :eusa_danc
     
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    Oh and if he's better built than you and more experienced, well, he obviously knows what he likes and you know he likes you, so fucking ENJOY IT, man... life is WAAAAAAAAAY too short!
     
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    Life IS way too short. You're right. This is becoming more of a motto for me than I ever would have thought.

    So it seems like the more hanging out we do, whatever is meant to happen will just kind of happen. Or at least it sounds this easy... And this is my plan. I'll hang with the two of them some more, really get to be friends with him. Then we'll be able to just hang with each other.

    Hmm.. I'm excited now, off to schedule some more hang out time....
    :kiss:

    Thanks everyone... these are great tips :icon_bigg
     
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    She told me tonight that he's been asking about me! *blush*

    We seem to be the only reason each of us are talking to her so much lately...
    Can't wait for some more one-on-one time. :kiss:
     
    #11 tired_of_lying411, Sep 11, 2007
  12. canadian bear

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    dont worry about ur frist kiss just take ur time and let it happen when it happens. just enjoy ur time with him and have fun(*hug*)
     
    #12 canadian bear, Sep 11, 2007
  13. Midnight Angel

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    oooh this looks like it's going in your favor. Sounds like you may get the guy.
     
    #13 Midnight Angel, Sep 11, 2007
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    So he and I have talked a few times on msn... we really seem to have similar interests, especially in music.

    I really need to find a way to hang out with him some more... I think about him every day. That's pretty major, no?

    I mean, how many things do you think about EVERY DAY?

    I guess this is called a crush, haha.
     
    #14 tired_of_lying411, Sep 16, 2007
  15. Midnight Angel

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    Hahah I agree, it is probably in the crush stage. But finding out a way to hang out with him more is a good idea, because it allows the crush to transcend into something better.
     
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    Uhm... I'm not gonna answer that on the grounds that it may incriminate me. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    You haven't hung out with him yet?! C'mon, man, get with the program! Time waits for no man, or no one, or no cat... well something like that.
     
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    I've hung out with him once, for about an hour... but I need MORE!

    And now, the plot thickens. Me and the mutual friend have kind of broken things off. Lets just say she was kind of more than I needed in my life.

    But he is different. He is like me. I really like him. I need to hang out with him.. but HOW?

    I know the answer seems so simple. "Just ask him to hang out." But that would be kind of weird, because when we hung out last time, it was because we both knew the girl...

    Now what?

    PS-I'm not sure how me breaking it off with the girl is going to affect my relationship with him. He seems to feel the same way about her as I do, but I'm just not sure. He has a lot of history with her.
     
    #17 tired_of_lying411, Sep 18, 2007
  18. canadian bear

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    if he likes you as much as u like him just asked him if he wants to hang out sometime it shouldnt matter the you and the girl broke it off.
     
    #18 canadian bear, Sep 18, 2007
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    U: hi!
    HIM: wattup?
    U: lets go hang out! im renting movies. u can cum to my house this evening
    HIM: cool, what movies?
    U: gay porn
    HIM: what kind?
    U: 1st time fetish
    HIM: ok, what time?
    U: 8pm
    HIM: ok, c u there!


    lol. jk, bro. but the point is, its as simple as that. well, dont bring out the girl to ur conversation. have a gud time, then. gud luck:slight_smile:!
     
    #19 neverover, Sep 22, 2007
  20. Phantomblade

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    i hate to be the only one to post a semi negetive response but....

    it sounds great and i definitly think you should go for it. just dont do what i did.... lets just say my first kiss turned into alittle more than that. and no relationship ever came to fuition between me and the guy. and it hurt alot more becouse of that one time we got carried away....

    anyways good luck!!
     
    #20 Phantomblade, Sep 22, 2007
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