How do you know...

Well im myself am more pulled tward being a bottom and rather be the bitch and be the one on the bottom. Plus it looks like the most fun =D

 

As I can see, the one who is more active will most likely being the top, the shy one will probably be the bottom, since the top has more work to do, and the bottom dont do much in most positions

well, but you'll find out when you meet that particular guy, like making out


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PS its' co complicated cuz with a str8 couple, they dont need to decide who's top who's bottom lamo

 

I'd say that if you're clothes are off and the condoms are coming out, you probably should know each other well enough to know what role you're about to play.

It's quite possible that you'll like both - and then it really doesn't matter.

 

i personally think the top would be better and more fun.

 

Great question, ive wondered the same thing. I really see my self as a bottom because i dont have a dominante personality, and it looks like a lot of fun.....:icon_redf ....So i guess it just comes naturally, but in a "hook up" i guess you'd know by personality.

 

Ok so first off, stop thinking of "top" and "bottom" as a fixed identity. Being "the top" or "the bottom" is just taking on a particular role during a particular part of a particular "bout" of sex... it's not like something you have to commit to for life and then swear allegiance to the flag of topdom or bottomdom. :lol:

It's funny--I had this conversation just a week ago with a friend and I'm always amazed people freak out about it...

Basically it will be as easy as this: one of you will say, "I really want to fuck you" or some variation thereof and the other will either be okay with it or they won't be. If you both like both, then you have a sweet deal because you can just take turns. The only real "problem" is if you both like getting fucked or doing the fucking, in which case you either agree not to have anal sex together or you agree to take turns. And if you've never done either, you try it out a bit and decide what you like most. And what you like with one person may be COMPLETELY different from what you like with another.

Sexual position choice is definitely a very important example of when labels are taken way too far by people! Yes, you might end up liking one position/role more than another but that doesn't mean you are irrevocably a top or a bottom and that you couldn't enjoy a whole variety of positions.

For example, with one boyfriend, I predominantly fucked him. With another, I was predominantly the one who got fucked. With yet another, we barely had anal sex. So yeah... things don't have to be fixed in stone, nor should they be.

In fact, I get really tired of the people who are hardcore rigid about this kind of thing: like the whole "I'm never letting a guy 'go' there" attitude or the whole "oh fucking someone is way too much work" train of thought and all those similarly silly types of attitudes. People of the world, stop limiting yourselves!

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Go forth and have varied types of sex!

 

Yes, quiet you! We hate you enough already--you don't have to rub our faces in it!

:lol:

 

in all of my fantasies, I am the top, but would be willing to be the bottom too

 

I'm also a top.:icon_bigg

 

I think you should go into it with a "versatile" mindset and just gravitate toward whichever position is most desirable for you and your partner.

After all, if you insist on ALWAYS being just one and not the other, think about it: your options are halved!

 

can i be a top when mine is only 4'' ?:icon_sad:

 

You can be either and enjoy both. Joey said things best. And yes you need to discuss the issue before hand, something like this can't be assumed or sniffed out of the air. If you are going to be intimate with someone, then you are engaging in a very personal thing, even showing your private bits and letting someone else touch them, so talking about it before hand would be a good idea. As said above, it is not something set in stone. Moods change so you do what you feel like at the time.

As for being a top with 4", yep you sure can be.

 

Ah, here we go with my stupid yaoi thing.
I can't help you with deciding which one, though
Uke= Bottom, Suke/Seke= Bottom or Top, Seme= Top.
I think I'd like the bottom better, probably.

 

I have no intrest in being a top.......being a bottom drives me nuts :icon_bigg

 

Guys, this thread is from over six years ago and the OP hasn't been on since 2011. Please check dates before you post.