Well I can't take lying to my roommates anymore. I'll be going on my third year living with them in September and in the past two years I have not been able to tell them I'm gay in person. I can't take it anymore so iv decided that today I am going to just text them saying that I am gay. I thought testing would be a bad choice at first but if I can't bring myself to start the conversation in person and all of my friends are saying that it's no big deal and I don't want it to be, then why force myself to do it in person? Anyways, anyone have any last minute suggestions or advice? I'm planning on texting them around lunch time
Here's what I can offer you. I've stopped posting all of my coming outs on EC.. too many in the past couple of months. Every one of them went well. In fact, every single person I've come out to has responded somewhere between "Meh.. whatever.." to "Why did you wait so long to tell me?" My lesson in this - we tend to think the worst, and usually get the best. Most of the people in your world will either not care or will be happy for you. You're already out to 14 people.. surely you have some kind of a track record by now? Just do it and get it over with! Oh, and my two cents.. if you come out to them in a text, offer them the chance to talk to you in person if they want to. You're obviously going to see them anyway, so you might as well make it clear that you are approachable on the topic and that they don't have to feel awkward around you.
Hi there! As James mentioned, give them the chance to talk to you afterward as well and breath. Good luck!
I am also in the process of coming out to my close friends and those that I have told so far, I have told in person. I know you are scared and I still have a long way to go but I found telling them in person allowed them to ask questions but also for you to see their reaction to what you are telling them. I know being gay is not a big deal but if you want to tell them something that means so much to you, I think news like that should be delivered in person. I hope that helps.
So i'm just about to do it... I cant wait any longer and I don't see myself doing it in person. i wanted to come out before a party i'm having on friday so today is really the last day and i'm not gonna be at my apartment until tomorrow morning probably.
One roommates is absolutely fine with it. He noticed I'd been acting weird recently. My other roommate said "I'm psyched" because i finally did it!
Congrats on coming out to them. My old roommates never knew (I didnt really get along with them) so before I moved in with my current ones I told them. Well I told one girl and she told the other girl and guy. haha But it went really well. It is so much more freeing and I feel so comfortable around them. Its always nice when they are so accepting.
