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OH MY GOSH Advice for my 1st officialy Boyfriend?

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  1. Inhuman

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    Ok so long story, but . .

    about 3 weeks ago im walking along with my friend, and some random guy texts her saying how hot I am(he drove by in a car), and being my usual emotionally conservative self, I just brushed it off, but he texted me and I added him as a contact. Whatever no big deal.

    about a week ago or less, I'm hanging with my other friend, who's friends with him, and he comes along and right away I could tell there's something different about this kid, right. I got super good vibes (and I don't get good vibes off many people.. come to think of it i rarely get any vibes at all). Like i could ell hes not a shallow loser or anything like that, like he has more important things on his mind than .. well sex and being a gay stereotype(which too many guys ive met are like, sorry)

    so two days after that, him and my original friend, whom he texted about me some weeks ago, went to hang out in the evening, and by this point it was pretty out in the open to all 3 of us that me and him were slightly into each other, right? but we're both too passive to do anything about it.
    So the long and short of that day, our friend put a gun to my head and made em ask him out(I'm glad she did) and he said yes ! So we spent some of that day talking about interesting things and sharing our fav bands and stuff

    two days after that he bussed all the way across town to hang out w/ me before my 4pm shift @ sobeys, and we took some great and supercute pictures with my other friend, and we held hands for the first time, and then we kinda cuddled a little too after. I also explained my weird idea of postponing my first boy-kiss-on-the-lips as muuuuuuuuuuuch as I can. I also gave him a wooden rose today which he loved a lot. After i left, he told my friend how he's really into the idea of saving the 1st kiss to make it special.

    today and tomorrow I'm resting, painting, working at sobeys, and packing for my trip (one week long, I leave Wendsday morning) and then on Tuesday, the day before I go, we're hanging again.:thumbsup:

    He's so sweet. Like realllyyyyyyyy adorable and everything. And like, it seems the things he wants from a relationship are the same things i want. More love less physical stuff.

    uhmmmmmmmm yah, so idk why i made this post, i think i had some intended purpose originally, but i forget it now. I guess i just would like any advice on first time relationship experiences. Him and I have both dated only girls and never a guy (plus my girl-relationship was 3 weeks long and a year ago, his was 4 weeks long and 2.5 years ago)

    So.. we have as much dating experience as a vegetarian has cutting meat. :roflmao: any good tips?
     
    #1 Inhuman, Jul 10, 2010
  2. Moth

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    Be honest with each other. :slight_smile: Be yourself. Don't be shy about talking about important things, and standing up for your integrity if need be, though it seems you won't have a problem with that as you already made it clear you want to wait for your first kiss and make it special. I guess that's about all I have to say... honesty and communication are key. Congratulations, by the way! :grin:
     
    #2 Moth, Jul 10, 2010
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    My gay experience is very limited, but, just enjoy yourself. You're very fortunate.

    remember how much people change through the years (even from 16 to 18, 18 - 21, 21 - 25, 25 - 30, 30 - 40, etc) and just have (safe) fun with it.

    Enjoy.

    You're very fortunate.
     
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  4. Étoile

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    He was texting while driving? Tsk, tsk.
     
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    :roflmao:


    I would have one bit of advice...that would be take it easy.
     
    #5 george678, Jul 11, 2010
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    DUMP HIS ASS. dump his ass
     
    #6 haelmarie, Jul 11, 2010
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    Congrats! :grin: Enjoy him, be honest with him and have fun together! :grin:

    Oh, one thing:

    Figuratively, or ...? :S
     
    #7 Steve712, Jul 11, 2010
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    Three words of advice I have for you:

    1. Be honest
    2. DON'T BE CLINGY, make sure to give him space when he needs it. This includes letting it go if you ask what's wrong and he won't tell you.
    and 3. Be yourself.
     
    #8 Revan, Jul 11, 2010
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    He's a total keeper!

    And I'm not being sarcastic. :grin:

    What's wrong with texting while driving? :3 lol (I do it >_>)
     
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    It increases the chance of an accident by 80-something per cent. Sadly, I forget the precise percentage. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I like to live dangerously. :wink:
     
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    At the expense of others' lives.
     
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    This conversation amuses me....too bad the USA hasn't done what Ontario did which was probably the smartest thing ever. It's now ILLEGAL to use a cell phone whilst driving. Texting, Calling, or w/e. You can be charged anywhere from $115 to $500 if you use a phone whether stopped, at a traffic jam, or a red light. The hands-free is fine but if you have a cell in your hand in Ontario while driving and ur caught by cops, you're screwed :slight_smile: I just wish more places would do this in the states...seeing as how car accidents are so common these days...
     
    #13 Revan, Jul 11, 2010
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    just be honest and don't let anyone come between you two (*hug*)
     
    #14 Super Trouper, Jul 11, 2010
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    Just wanted to say sorry for talking about driving crap lol. That wasn't really on topic so sorry about that...
     
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    In Georgia, it's illegal to text and drive now. Underage drivers can't use their cell phones at all. We're one of the only 3 states to have a law like this. I'm glad; driving is already dangerous.
     
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    well, let me first say: I"m totally jealious of you. finding an awsome BF in your teens.

    As for advice:
    Enjoy the ride, you said you like being with him so enjoy it. Don't read into it enjoy the moment.
     
    #17 malachite, Jul 11, 2010
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    It is also illegal in Washington State now. I think the fine is around $115ish.
     
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  19. IsItSo

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    Umm, 21 states and DC have made using a cell phone while driving illegal.
     
    #19 IsItSo, Jul 12, 2010
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    did you know that 67% of all statistics are made up..lolz
     
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