I can't tell if he's curious?

From what it sounds like to me, he is curious but still more straight than anything.

I think what he is trying to tell you is that he values you as a friend and doesn't want your sexuality getting in the way of that. As you say, he knows you have a crush on him. He may be trying to reciprocate that simply out of a misplaced desire for friendship or as you seem to hope he might genuinely have feelings for you. Stranger things have happened.

He has said that he wished you were a girl? That seems to indicate to me that he is attracted to girls rather than guys, but still has some kind of feelings for you. This is more my musings on the matter than anything set in stone - I don't know him or know the exact situation.

Advice wise... I think It would be best for you to just be honest with him. Tell him that he's confusing you and that you would like him to explain himself. It will most likely be embarrassing for both of you, but it could very well stop you making a big mistake. If you're lucky and he truly does have feelings for you, then you might just be able to progress it into a relationship if that is what you both want...

Best of luck.

 

Well Welcome to EC!

I think that he's wants to you to be a girl is indicating he is straight.
Sharing a bed...Many friends have done that and still do it. I think he's just being friendly on that front.

But asking you to give him a blowjob he may just be a little bit curious. I would talk to him and ask him. If it is making you a little bit uncomfortable tell him.

Hope this helps. Best wishes.
George

 

I say just do what Roxas said. Talk to him about it and get a straight answer from him. BOTH of you need to know what HE wants before something truely bad happens.

 

He sounds curious, for sure. Like others have said, be honest and tell him all of this and ask him what's really going on in his head.

 

My intuition tells me that when one guy asks another guy for a blowjob, he is probably at least curious.

 

>>>He knows I've got a bit of a crush on him so if he ever wanted to do anything, he knows I'm game but it never goes that far.

Really?

>>>Twice now when we've shared a bed he's started coming on to me and asked me to give him a blowjob, but I never did.

Maybe I'm old school, but I would certainly file "asking to get a blowjob" under the heading of "ever wanting to do something". Dude, he wants to have sex. It doesn't get any more blatant than that. His comments about wishing you were a girl and all that give you some more information, though. It sounds more specifically like he wants to have sex, he knows you've got a crush on him, so hey - why not? It sounds unlikely that he wants to be your boyfriend, or that he wants anybody to know about you two having sex. If I can be extremely blunt (and a bit cruel), he's horny and you're convenient.

So what should you do? I guess that depends - what do you want to do?

Option one - talk to him. Tell him you've noticed him making some hesitant moves in that direction, and ask what he'd really like to do. He may be upfront and say he's looking for some downlow, no-strings-attached buddy sex. But I'd say it's more likely he sort of waves the whole thing away, and all the moves in that direction will stop.

Option two - don't talk to him. Have sex with him. Next time he makes a move, just make a move back. Don't talk about what you're doing, or about "what it all means", or ask him what he'd like. Just crawl on top of him, take his dick out, stroke him off, give him a blowjob. There's a slight chance he'll stop you, in which case just ask why he kept suggesting you do so. More likely, he'll lay back and let it happen. But chances aren't too great he'll be gung-ho about reciprocating. In fact, post-orgasm, he'll probably be pretty nervous and might want some space between you for awhile. You'll have to do your best to reassure him that all this will remain in the bedroom, and that nothing will change between you two.

The first option is more likely to result in keeping the friendship intact.
The second option is more likely to result in you getting in his pants.
Your call.

Lex

 

>>>It's just a shame he's not so willing to just have a bit of fun lol...

Twice now when we've shared a bed he's started coming on to me and asked me to give him a blowjob, but I never did.

Yeah, shame that.

Lex

 

Yes, this is the biggest "wtf" to me. If he straight up asked for it, he's down. One time on a vacation I had to share a bed with a friend who is straight and I was in the closet then and I woke up and he was holding me in his arms. awkward...i kind of like it though so i stayed. :dry:

 

sometimes I wish i had experienecs like this :dry:

 

Experiences like that tend to be pretty damn awakward though, for both parties involved...

As for the OP, I hold by my original advice. He is your friend first and foremost - talk to him about it and see what he wants/is thinking. Don't rush into anything that might ruin your friendship or make things awkward between you.

Kaleb.

 

Oh what a fucking closet case.

Ok now that I got that out of the way...I see a few options here.

1.Talk to him/call him out on his actions. Tell him you're down to do something if he's actually interested but if not to cut the bullshit cause it's not fair to you.

2.Make a move on him. Not recommended even though he's pretty much doing it to you.

3.Continue doing what your doing and play this ever-lasting game of is he curious or not.

I'd go with option one. He's your friend first and foremost, and unless you both talk it out and agree that you're down for hooking up without affecting the friendship, don't try getting in his pants.

 

BAHAHAHAHAHA.

Listen to Lex.

It seems you've made your decision, but honesty and being frank really helps.

 

Yeah alchohol lol