I think this guy is interested in me! Yay! :D

If you're not going to him you're gay if you want a relationship then I really don't have an idea how his reaction could be.

If he is interested, then to him you're straight. And if he's not then he's not.

And by this I would say that he's somewhat feminine, but I don't really know. You can tell by his pictures though, still you just don't know.

Tell him.

 

From what you've said about how he's been trying to talk to you a lot and then asking if you have a gf, I'd be pretty sure he is interested

 

Yes agreed^
If he is asking if you have a girlfriend he has an interest in you. You should ask the same question.

 

if you wont tell him your not straight then he will lose interest and move on .

its a bitch to wait then to find they met someone else

besides if hes really someone you want to know he should be happy and accepting, besides i think the fact its a new relationship should make it easier.

have a talk with him it cant hurt if it went bad you would of just lost a person not worthy of you, but it sounds like he likes you

 

I think you should let him know you're interested in him. This way, you'll know if he's truly interested in going farther with you in that respect. And this way, you're also not guessing with him. You guys seem like you want to get along well, so why not let him know when the time is right, and then see where it takes you.

 

I have a friend who acts totally feminine, and I have to admit when I first met him I thought absolutely for sure he was gay. He'd hold hands with different girls walking to class, has an obsession with Taylor Swift, put on female friends' clothing for fun, has a higher pitched voice with lots of inflection, etc. And when I very first met him, I may have had potentially the slightest attraction to him. However, he's straight (fortunately I found out before things got weird). But yeah, he would do things like sit on my lap and grab my butt (before he knew I was gay). Now that he knows, I show absolutely no interest in him and I make it a point to act disgusted from any sexual remarks he makes about me in a joking manner. (Although to be honest, I may or may not still have that ever-so-small initial interest in him. :icon_wink Shh!)

But yeah, if you're in the closet, I'd definitely be careful. Hopefully he's the type of person though who would respect the fact that you're gay and not go around telling everyone. And if he happens to be gay too, that's a plus!!!

 

good luck (*hug*)

 

Don't beat yourself up about it too much - at least you know now. Give him a bit of space; a few days to let him realise that it's not worth losing a friend over (or if he decides it is, then you're probably better off without him).
Chances are you've just shocked him, possibly by being a bit too upfront for him (it's just possible he's just not ready to tell you he's orientated towards being attracted to you). If you did the humour thing right you might be okay anyway.

 

relax mate so you couldn't quite get this one, relax! theres a million and a half other guys out there just as good as him if not better, at least now you can learn that if something doesn't work out you spit on their graves and don't look back right?

 

dont worry about it it happens to everyone, sadly not everyone can be as open or honest as you were. you opened up emotionally took a chance and found out he doesn't like guys, not a lot can be done about it...

there may be denial involved maybe not youve tried to play it down it was a good bit of humour...

i say leave him to make the next move if he doesn't want to talk to you even suspecting you like guys then he really isnt worth having as a friend...but you never know he may be forced to work through his own things now...

whatever happens you were open honest and genuine, you cant say that about a lot of people in this world

 

Yeah man! I definitely commemorate you for your bravery! That's something I probably couldn't do.

And yeah, if your friend is weirded out by it, let him know how silly it is to be weirded out by it. I mean, if you found out some girl liked you, would you be weirded out by her or could you still be friends letting her know you didn't share the same feelings towards her? I mean it's not like you're going to stalk him... I hope. lol

Or if he mentions anything tell him that he acts gayer than you do. lol just kidding. XD
But seriously... my straight friend acts like a million times gayer than me. I'm pretty laid-back though.

 

weve been there, if we cant support each other then what kind of people are we

 

yeah, that sounds like he is totally into you. No straight man worth his salt would say anything about making cupcakes with another guy. Go for it have fun and good luck.

 

Yeah, keep us posted - I'm enjoying the soap-opera side of this I know it sucks when your instincts are wrong, but at least if he comes to terms with your apparently bizarre sense of humour you'll have a baking buddy!

 

It's okay man. You needed to know so you know which feelings to have. Now you do, so enjoy the friendship you guys have. And if he pulls up any pre-occupations, just look back on the situation and laugh it off when you can. Keep him as a buddy and keep your head up.