gay or straight?

Well I know some straight people who were confused about their sexuality but that can be kind of rare. It's something you have to figure out of yourself because you could be gay or bi or even straight. We're here to help!

If you only think of other men in a sexual way, you're probably gay.
If you only look at gay porn ever, you're probably gay.
If you have any attraction to girls, then you're not gay. You could be Bi.
If you desire women sexually, then you're not gay. You could be Bi.
If you never look at other guys, you're probably not gay.
If you could never picture yourself in a serious relationship with another guy, well that will come in time if you are gay lol.

It's nothing to be scared of. Just remember that people tend to make it a bigger deal in their heads than it really is.

 

I think they end up being gay or bi.

 

Actually, this is great advice. A lot of gay guys come to this barrier and just assume that they aren't gay. It takes a bit to overcome this one.

 

Just saying, there are plenty of people who aren't just gay men who are only stimulated by gay male porn. Like straight women and lesbian women, and i'm sure there are truly straight guys out there that will find gay male porn enticing, but something they wouldn't want to participate in. Sexuality can be confusing like that.


Back on topic.

It all really comes down to who you could see yourself with in the future. And nor is it something we should be deciding for you. Nor is it something as easy as a simple question. It can take hours, months, or even years of thinking. But you'll figure it out.

Just try and picture yourself with both gender.

And it's never just gay or straight. Just go with what feels right.

 

Just another thought that Shevanel reminded me of.

Sexuality isn't one of three categories. It isn't even a scientific scale. It's a circular spectrum with all kinds of combinations and exclusivities. It's fluid and it's personal. At some point you figure out where you lie. Just takes time.

 

^This

It's no race to figure out your orientation. Personally speaking I'm still a tad bit confused. I find that during the spring my sexuality does a 180 and I become less attracted towards guys and more attracted towards girls. For some people it's easy for others our sexual is not so clear even to ourselves.

 

My advice. Forget the label and just run with it. Over time you'll figure it put and you can label it at that time if you choose.

 

Welcome to EC!

First off, as others have said, don't feel the need to rush this. Yeah, it'd be great if you knew for a fact, and could announce to everyone (and yourself) "this is my sexuality" and go off to find somebody of the appropriate gender to date/fool around with. But if you're not sure yet, that's fine. Let "not sure yet" be your label for the time being. Feel free to add "leaning towards gay/bi/straight" if you want, but that's not necessary.

Do most people end up one way or the other? Hard to say. I do know some guys who wondered if they might be gay when they were teens, but eventually decided they were straight (and remain so to this day). But I should point out that their period of "sexual confusion" wasn't that long. It would appear that the longer someone remains "unsure", the more likely they end up deciding that they're gay. But I don't think there are any absolutes here.

What should you do? Ride it out. Wait, date, masturbate. It'll eventually fall into place.

Lex