Am I the only person that gets freaked out by liking people a lot quickly?

he calls you babe and wants to cuddle, hes at least into guys like you
I know what u mean with getting attached to people. When you feel like it is a rare occasion that people get interested in you, then you attach quickly when they do. There is an aspect of co-dependance and lack of confidence that stands at the root of that and a lot of people have it (me included xD). The best you can do is work on that and try to take your time, 3 weeks is not all that short of a time, but let things move slowly and naturally

 

I hear that. I'll get like a month into a relationship and want to say love but I know it's way too soon. I just get attached and really like a guy even though I know I should be taking it slow. So yes, I know exactly how you feel.

 

Preach. This is so me. I get really attached, and Revan, I've been to that point too.

 

same here.. can lead to lot of heartache ... as for him calling you babe and cuddling that could just mean hes emotional and friendly but...you wont know unless you ask but get closer first get to know what hes like more..and then you can ask him but i would do it so you say theres something you need to tell him..that your bi then he may come out to you to.

 

I get attached really easily. A month into my first relationship, I wanted to say those three words that can make or break a relationship >.>

Right now I have a crush on a guy I've spoken to once. See him around at the pub, since he works as a waiter. He should be leaving town soon, which really sucks.

Knowing me, I'd probably try steer a conversation towards sexuality and ask him what he's in to, if he's curious etc. But that might not be a good idea, I don't know, I lack experience somewhat.

 

This is pretty common, especially for people with lower self-esteem. I can be this way too.. it makes it hard to just be friends with someone who really likes you, but not in "that way".. you can end up throwing away a perfectly good friendship..

If you're being totally honest about what he's saying and doing, I get a sense that he's going after you. Just be sure that you're describing what's really happening, and not what you want to see him doing.. don't let your emotions cloud your ability to see the truth. We have an ability to project our desires onto others so that we see something different than an objective observer would see.

So if this is really what's going on, I would push him a little. Drop a subtle hint or two. Try a "next step" like holding hands or letting that hug go just a little too long.. :icon_wink Or if you have an open line of communication, just tell him that you're starting to get into him, and see what he says. Good luck!

 

sounds like he likes guys.

And there is nothing wrong with loving with all you have.

 

It's perfectly fine to fall for someone quickly. Sometimes you just like people and you cant control if you fall for them or not.

I pretty much fell for the guy i'm with now within a week and a half... We've met twice in person, but I like him a lot. It doesn't feel weird or anything and I feel like I know him really well. Really, as long as you both feel the same way, it's fine.

Oh, and that guy likes guys, or at least he likes you lol

 

falling for someone quickly can be risky. it can make for some heartbreak if a relationship comes of it but then ends. i fell for my last boyfriend before he and i actually dated. i've been crazy about him for a while, and i still am. he's never wanted to ruin our friendship, but after me trying to fix our relationship, i realized i might just be making things worse.

you can't control your feelings, which is the worst part. i was pretty much in love with him while he just liked me and was interested in dating me but it obviously didn't last. it hurt, and he was still there for me right after we broke up, but i was so focused on the 2 of us that i might have driven him away. it's just that when i think of how i've had someone so perfect in my eyes, i wonder how/if i'll find someone else like him.

i've concluded that relationships should start with both people being on the same page with their feelings toward each other.

the best advice is to guard your heart.

 

You're preaching to the choir. I can totally relate.

My advice is to not go too crazy over him so soon. Take baby steps, not leaps.