I am 21 years old and have started having extremely strong urges to come out. 4 years go I thought i could turn myself straight by getting a girlfriend. That was a stupid mistake. I have to break up with her but I don't want her to know I'm gay but the problem is I don't have any other reason to break it off I'm going out tonight with my best friend and I really want to tell her. Should I break up with my girlfriend first or just tell my best friend?
>>>I have to break up with her but I don't want her to know I'm gay but the problem is I don't have any other reason to break it off. That's without a doubt the best reason to break up with your girlfriend. There is no future with you, and the longer you keep her tied to you, the longer you keep her "off the market"...where she would be able to find somebody with whom she WOULD have a future. So call a halt to it. Your friend shouldn't have anything to do with this. Tell him or don't tell him, as you see fit, but call an end to your relationship with your girlfriend. If you absolutely can't bring yourself to explain why, tell her without telling her. Tell her that "I realize that there's no future to this relationship" and that "I do like you a lot, but only on the friendship level, so I think it'd be best if we reverted to that." Lex
Well, maybe it would be good to tell your best friend tonight. You could probably use all the support you can get, and having her (hopefully) on your side will ease the burden of breaking up with the girlfriend. Beyond that, Lex has it nailed.
Yes, end that relationship as soon as possible. Never string someone along any longer than you have to.