Mark.... I've lost count

You could always write a letter and read it to them? Or even have them read it while you're standing there. That way, its one swift motion, rather than you having to find the right words

 

Say out loud the words/sentences you want to say to them! I'm not saying you should plan out everything, but you will feel more comfortable if you already said those things out loud to yourself, not just thought about them.

Writing a letter is also an option and it is much easier, IMO. Once they read it they will certainly have questions so they will be starting the conversation. If you feel that you really can't tell them directly, this might be a good choice.

Good luck! (*hug*)

 

I know how you feel - it took me 8 months to pluck up the courage to tell my brother, 9 months to tell my mum and about 9 and a half to tell a couple of my friends.

*hugs* Good luck.. You only come out when YOU feel comfortable. That's essentially the only way to do it.

 

That's what I did for my sister and her (now ex-) husband. I arranged to take them out for a drink at a quiet pub, we got the drinks then I gave them the letter and said I was just going to the toilet. Five minutes later I came back out, and they were absolutely fine with it. They had both wondered for some time so it was not a great surprise.

In fact they were more surprised that another friend of mine, who I had shared a bedsit with, was not gay and that we weren't partners (I still think he was, but that's not relevant here).

 

if u cant write letters or pluck up the courage to tellem cus both can be hard 2do, just let the ppl u wana come out 2 come across ur stash of porn lol, mite not be the most sensible reply but i have 2 do it one time, mabe when i go uni, but yeah thts beside the point. writing the letter would be a gd option, and if u want leave the letter where they will find it and then u dont have 2 be there when they read it, they will come 2 u once they have read it and want to talk or they will just accept it and not really have 2 speak about it agen. if they do tht then make sure they have read the letter tho and they havent spoke about it cus they havent read it.

 

this might seem obvious (or unhelpful) but maybe ur not as ready as you think you are to come out?

Your post sounded just like me not that long ago, really wanting to come out to some ppl but just not able to do it...comfortably.

Just last week i came out to one friend, i'd known her for a year and last week was only the 2nd time she asked me what kind of girl i liked ... this time she got the truth ..... then agreed with me that the barman was cute :lol: ...anyway, my point was - if your not comfortable with it don't do it yet..

 

When in doubt BLURT IT OUT! IM GAY just rolls over the tongue oh so easy BTW Turn off your brain when u do it see that why u dont get so nervous but then again im the laid back person who forcing him self out on Nation Coming Out Day and HIS 18th Birthday so yea

 

This might not be the best idea. A lot of people take time to accept the fact that you are gay, and it should go slowly. You really shouldn't worry, it took me 11 months to come out to my parents. My major help was telling my best friend, and having her there to support me. In the end, I couldn't stomach telling them, so I told my parents separately (well, my mom sort of outed me to my dad, but that is a different story). Just take your time, and it is ok if it takes a while, thats normal. If you really cant tell someone in person, write a letter, or tell them over the phone, but I wouldn't recommends aim. Also, you could do it in conversation, like if some people are like he is really hot, then be like, "Yeah, I know". Anyway, good luck, and know we are all here for you (*hug*)
-Bryan