Telling another guy that you like him

Sometimes you don't need to say anything right away, talk to person, make eye contact and touch him a little (nothing nasty just like on the arm or shoulder.) You can say 0something like: "I like talking to you" or "Its cool that we hang out"

It hard telling someone you like them, especially if you don't know if you they like you too.

 

I am unclear from your post if you each know that the other is gay. Assuming that is the case, another approach is to first spend some more time with him to develop the relationship, before telling him how you feel. Ask him to grab a bite to eat or to go watch a game somewhere. It does not really matter what you do, as long as it gives you two the opportunity to spend time together, get to know each other and see if there is actually something more there. I generally think this is a better approach than out of the blue telling someone you like them.

 

touching is a real sign that something is up, was it like a high 5 touch or an arm touch, or a chest (my personal favorite).

But if he is touching you a lot then there is a gay vibe

 

Well, thats the trick. If he isn't gay its going to come across as "weird".
In my opinion just tell him that you like him and see how things go.

 

Stick to the old rule. The boy tells first.

I'm trying to think back to how things started between me and my boyfriend. We just met for longer and longer at a time. The first time we kissed, when we met, I walked us up past the coffee place he thought we were going, up to a quiet place of a park. We were talking, and at a lull in the conversation, I asked if he'd like to go for a proper date sometime soon.

In the times coming up to that, there were hints like, I'm sure I'll see you soon again for something like this.

 

nothing ventured nothing gained

 

You've put quite a bit of thought into dating this guy! Sounds a bit like your heart is set on this happening. I'm not saying it won't but just don't get your hopes up so much that you end up getting hurt if it doesn't work out. None of us want that!!

Have you ever brought up the subject of being gay with him? If not, maybe you should just see where he stands about it and who knows, maybe that conversation will open some doors for you.

 

Okay good I'm sure you'll find a good way to bring it up. For me I usually get on the topic of something that is gay related that is in the news or public eye. That way it's not totally out there to bring it up. WBC and Prop 8 are my favorite topics to bring up but thats just me. I hope you find something that works for you and get the response you want!

 

For your sake I hope so as well! Just curious: if he asked you if you were gay would you come out to him flat out? Because I could see asking him if he's seeing a girl or a guy outside of school could lead to him turning the question back on you.

As for the question being personal that could depend on how you phrase it I think. I feel like if you ask him very seriously, and he /is/ gay but not comfortable with it or not ready to come out, there could be awkwardness. Or if he is straight it could also be awkward. I feel like being light about it and showing him that you are 100% okay with whatever he may happen to be is best. Good Luck!

 

Rather than asking if he is gay, perhaps you should weave into a conversation that you are gay. Or, you can talk about things that make it clear that you are gay. That will then give him the opening to come out to you.

 

I haven't read all the posts in this thread, so forgive me if I repeat someone else's advice. I think you should tell him you're gay. Just casually work it into a convo you two are having. Say "I just thought you should know this since we're close friends and all. Is that going to be a problem?" (or something similar). He may respond with something positive, which will later on encourage you to share your feelings for him. He may also show distate that you're gay, which, in any case wouldn't be the end of the world, considering you don't need a friend like that anyway. And, of course, best-case scenario, you tell him you're gay, and he then tells you that he is as well. Then, you two can continue to be "friends."

Either way, good luck, and keep us posted!

 

yeah. i was planning on you coming out before i finished reading and discovered everyone else said it first. do the usual - find out his views on gay rights and such. then if he's against, give it up. if he's for, then come out, and if he's not gay, then nothing's lost, and he'll probably stay friends with you.