Tomorrow one of my best guy friends invited me for a cook out. He still has no clue I'm gay. For some reason I have a strong urge to tell him and his fiance. I am pretty sure they will both be accepting of it but of course I have my doubts. His mom is a gay rights activist and he goes to the gay bar with her and her gay friends BUT I feel like since we are good friends he will feel freaked out. Also his moms friends are all older and I'm his age. I'm scared of being rejected and him telling the world but there's a 90% chance he wont but there is still that 10% that he will. But I feel like I have to tell him.
I thought my best guy friend would be freaked out, even though he helped another friend out of the closet. I talked to him about women all the time and was worried how he'd react. He didn't believe me for a minute but right after he realized I was serious he became my biggest supporter. The whole thing brought us much closer because I became more honest about myself and he even became more open about his feelings.
Well, in the past 2 days i told 2 people. I feel great. For some reason i was scared and nervous even though i knew they were gonna be accepting. I know how you feel and honestly i recommend you do it. I know you feel like you dont know if he will tell or not, but thats a chance you should take. If he is your friend he will keep the secret. You just have to trust him
In my experience, we always underestimate our friends. So if you're still 90% sure he'll be accepting, odds are probably closer to 99%! So it sounds like coming out is the right thing to do! Best of luck, and we will expect a report afterwards
He'll be fine with it. He already goes to gay bars and his mom is an activist. You couldn't ask for more. He might be a tiny bit weirded out at the beginning but he'll be fine
It looks like he is most likely to be very accepting of you! I know that there still a chance that he will freak out, but it is so little that it is not reason enough not to tell him, I reckon. I am sure everything will be alright!
well. do your really want o be friends with someone who isnt accepting? even if they dont know your gay? cos i certainly wouldnt. one of the good things about coming out is that you know who your friends are when your done
UPDATE... I did it and it only made us closer. He is 100% straight but is a huge support for me! He was my wing man at the gay bar, he talked to me untill 4:30 am when I was hurting. I could never ask for a better friend!!!
