Came out to a friend, and I don't think he got the point.

Ugh, I really hate it when people ask if you turn yourself on. It is just silly in my opinion.

Yet, I can see how they would come up with idea, heck, if I wasn't gay I would probably have asked at least someone if it were true.

Personally, I don't get turned on by myself, I have seen myself in an attractive way but that is no different to anyone else thinking they look good.

I think your friend was only talking in a joking way, best not to take it too seriously.

 

Sounds like he took it really well. He probably thought you were joking. Congrats!!

 

He does seem sort of ignorant to a few aspects of homosexuality. He implies that it is a choice and compares liking the same sex to liking 'fat chicks' but apart from that he seems to have taken it rather well.

I am not sure if you want to, basing on your dislike for talking about the subject, but you may want to get a few facts right with him next time he says something along those lines. Some people really take it to heart and should he say it to another gay person, they may do any number of things in retaliation.

So far so good though. Could have gone at lot worse.

 

I actually think he's right in comparing being gay and liking "fat chicks". I mean both are not by choice, nor are both 'the normal'. Although, of course, admitting you're gay is a bigger deal then admitting to liking "fat chicks". lol

As for him thinking that being gay is a choice, well yeah, that's just ignorant.

 

Well, congratulations on coming out!

It does look like he might be labouring under a couple of misconceptions, but that doesn't need to be a bad thing (you can't blame straight guys for not being experts on being gay). The important thing is that he seems to be taking it in stride!

I think it would be good to talk to him more about it, or at least being open if he wants to talk about it. No need to bring it up specifically if you don't want to, but acting as if it's no big deal will ease your mind into being out, even if it's just to one guy!

Once more: congrats on finding the courage to tell him!

 

yey. well done. people do have a habit of totally not picking up on hints fro over a year. i know from experience by trying to get people to actually ask me if i was gay or not, because i was to screwed up to even admit it. im better now though

 

yea i think ur friend is pretty cool. he sounds like a really understanding guy

 

He actually has a point. Think about straight guys. When they get horny, they're thinking breasts. But to jack off...they've got to give a guy a hand job. Sure, it's their OWN dick they're stroking, but still. But with gay guys, we're usually thinking dicks...and I'll be damned, there's a dick sitting there waiting for you!

Lex

 

I'm glad he's okay with it! Hopefully you'll be able to help him become a little less ignorant as you talk to him though...

 

He sounds a little ignorant, I agree, but at least he took it well once he knew you were completely serious. So anyways...congratz on being out

 

I felt the same way when I came out to somebody else for the first time. I shook like a leaf, and then cried for an hour when I got home again. My first thought, as soon as I calmed down a bit, was that I had just ruined my life.
So what you're going through isn't unusual, and as for what to do now... you don't have to do anything else. Telling the first other person is a big step; and its one that you've taken. Your friend seems to have taken it well. So double congratulations, on taking a big step, and on it going well. Sleep on it tonight, and you'll wake up feeling better tomorrow. Maybe not loads better, but a bit. It takes a while to adjust to being out, even to one person. But I promise that you will get used to it.

Again, well done on telling him! Its a brave thing to do. (*hug*)

 

The first time I came out to someone we chatted for about 45 minutes in my room, just about how long I'd known, whether I was bothered by the banter (it was quite homoerotic) around our uni halls etc. He was, and still is, one of the most supportive people I've known, but after telling him, I cried too - I couldn't believe what I'd just done.

What I'm trying to say is it's perfectly natural to be worried after you tell someone for the first time.