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Little bit of a rough conversation with my mom...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by St. Jimmy, Sep 28, 2010.

  1. St. Jimmy

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    About Billie Joe Armstrong:

    Mom: Is he married?
    Me: Yes
    Mom: Wait, I thought you said he was bi?

    :bang:
     
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    "I like girls with blonde hair and girls with dark hair. That doesn't mean I can't settle down with one or the other."

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    I had a similar conversation with someone a few months ago.

    I kind of just sighed and then explained it to them using a similar comparison as the post above. Never fails to amuse me when people ask though.
     
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    Like I don't even get the thought process. She thinks if you're bi you're alone for the rest of your life?
     
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    Well in the case of my friend I was talking to, they thought you are bisexual until you meet that right person and then from then on your can be classed as either heterosexual or homosexual.

    So I think my friend's logic was that bisexual was just a label for when in the dating process saying that you are up for anyone.

    Maybe that's what your mum thinks?
     
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    The thought process I see happen with the most people is that they assume that bisexual people can't settle down with one person. That they need both a male and a female partner (at the same time) to be happy.

    It's misguided, but hopefully your mom would be open for the explanation that bisexuality is not about dating more people at the same time, but rather about having a slightly larger spread of people to fall in love with.
     
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    >>>Like I don't even get the thought process. She thinks if you're bi you're alone for the rest of your life?

    I know several people (sadly, most are gay) who feel bisexuals fall into one of these three types. (For simplicity sake, I'll use guys - feel free to swap genders.)

    * If they settle down with a guy, it's because he was ALWAYS gay and just went by "bisexual" because he was too chickenshit to admit it, and wanted to maintain a sense of "false normalcy".

    * If they settle down with a woman, it's because bisexuals always succumb to the pressure of society and get married...so don't even date a bisexual, because he'll dump you for a woman and "normalcy".

    * If they don't settle down, it's because bisexuals are incapable of it.

    Damned no matter what you do. :slight_smile:

    Lex
     
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    In my opinion you have a point Lex. It seems SO many of the gay community for some reason feel bisexuals are the exiles, they don't belong to either group.

    This kind of shows it:
    [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XWvNObmOmE[/youtube]
     
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    The first thing I thought of is that she thinks bisexuals are all interested in relationships with both men and women at the same time, not settling down and marrying someone. Or even no relationships at all, just sleeping around.

    Ohh ignorance... :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Yeah people seem to think bisexuals want a guy and a girl at the same time. I blame that fucking "True Life" episode.
     
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    Ughh I know right, that was terrible. Hatedddd ittttt.
     
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    I remember that Tyra episode. That part pissed me off to no end.
     
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    A lot of people think if you're bi, then you get into a relationship (especially if you marry) then you've 'chosen' to be either gay or straight based on who you end up with. I guess I can see how it's confusing to older folks who haven't really dealt with/thought about these things much. That's what I tell myself, it's hard to see the gray when your whole life has been lived as just black or white.

    ---------- Post added 30th Sep 2010 at 07:33 AM ----------

    Exactly. I'm bi, but have little interest in sex at all. It's wonderful hypothetically in my head, but when it comes to putting it into practice, I'd rather not most of the time.
     
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    My mum thought the same when i was thirteen. we had an argument about it, and we've had many since, but she always thinks the same and forgets the arguments. its weird. i kind of gave up on her.

    and, my immediate reaction was 'is billie joe armstrong atually bi? i though he might be, but i never knew for sure'