How do gay people find partners o.0 (naive)

I'd like to know too. I want to know how to find a girlfriend without asking if they are gay or going to a support group or a club. so I can't help you because I don't know either.

 

hey, what the man said. also, I'm bi and so, well, it is tuff to say, we are so different, all people are different I mean. Any way, when a person feels close to another there is usually some common attraction. you smile at the same things, you may wink at eachother. But take the moves easy at first. Comment on his shirt, his shoes. Say you like pink, or purple or something. Listen carefully to the other person, if not sure, just ask. Friends first is a good way to go. Well, enough, it's lunch time. Good luck. Paul

 

I agreed with everyone above me ^^

Another thing is by coming out, when i came out to some of my female friends, and they introduced me to other gay/bi guys^^ well, but if ur not ready to ocme out yet

Yeah yeah i knwo it's hard for you, since you are only 14 an dyou odnt have much opportunities to meet gay local, you have to get older to get into gay clubs

but you can use the internet to find out the gay community near your place, tho it's hard cuz you dont have much transportation

And gaydar, tho not mnay people got thsi ability, but if you do, you can figure out who is gay and who is traight, but sometiems dont trust in gay stereotypes

 

GAYDAR FTW!!!!!!
lmao!
jk well hm
Seeing as how most people are in the closet
what usually happens is a friend stays the night and just as you are about to go to bed you start talking and you tell them.
The lights are off, you cant see them, it makes everything easier.
I have come out to 4 different guys that way.
Chances are if you are telling them its because you suspect they are gay/bi , you like them and have the suspicion he/she likes you.
Which is usually right...GAYDAR!
lmao
Its just easy to tell for me..so idk.

 

How to find another gay person to partner with... hmm... well the easiest way would be to find a place that increases your chances that the person you are admiring is gay. You could go to gay-oriented outings, if you don't want to necessarily join a group. For instance, there is a LGBT film festival this weekend in my town. I think it is safe to assume that some of the people there will be gay. Then it is just the matter of making eye contact, introducing yourself, etc. This is probably more difficult for the younger age group, but most effective for those that can provide their own transportation.

 

I would agree that you hang out with gay-oriented groups and do activities where you know there are going to be gay people. Probably this is easiest if you are college-aged because there are a lot gay-oriented things aimed towards college-aged people.

Also, annoying but true: if you're out, then people can find you a lot more easily than if no one knows you're into people of the same gender.

 

What are the cons, in your mind, about joining? Is it just that you aren't ready for a lot of people to know?

 

Yeah it does feel weird initially... but that does fade. But if you aren't up to it yet, just keep it in mind for the future. You don't have to rush out if you're not ready for it and 14, even these days, is still pretty young to be coming out. So if you want to take your time, take your time. I was nearly 20 before I came out so you're miles ahead of me (and most people, truly).