how to tell if a guy is gay?

Well unless they're wearing some type of rainbow shirt or jewelry, you probably wouldn't be able to tell. If your school has a lgbt club/center, you could find guys there.

 

In my case, there is my gaydar that's powerful, it's all in the look and the smile while looking. You just know it. There is also bringing up relationships, talking about bf/gf and seing how the person reacts to this topic by asking him personal question on his last/current relationship, "innocently". You can ask common friends. You can ask him, do you like men. I can think of many other ways, but there always is a way

 

That's a really great question. When you figure it out, lemme know, okay?

No, seriously though, I know how feel. I like the manly men too, and it's so freakin hard to tell if they're gay or not. (espicially when we tend to overthink things)

Good luck though.

 

I always liked this condundrum. "I'm looking for a gay guy, but I don't like femmy guys. In short, if you can tell he's gay, I'm not interested." Geez, no wonder guys stay in the closet - apparently, once you're out, everybody loses interest.

I kid.

Whatever you do, I certainly wouldn't find a guy just to fill the requirements of this "triple date". That's pretty much putting the cart way before the horse. Instead, focus on getting to know more people. Especially more gay people. Yes, even the femmy guys, because the femmy guys will be more likely to know the non-femmy gay guys. And who knows - you might end up clicking with one of the femmy guys, after all. Your school probably has a gay student union - maybe you should stop by.

Lex

 

Danny, I feel your pain
I'm a pretty masculine guy, and it's ridiculously hard for me to tell when someone's gay. The only way I've ever gotten any reaction in my "gaydar" is when I look at someone and they make eye contact and smile. I'm guessing it's something you get used to over time, so for now good luck with your search

 

You: "Hey man, do you like to suck dick?"

 

I dig the femmy guys. I dig the manly ones too.

It all comes down to whether or not he's willing to change a tire. Lol. Some of the most rustic outdoorsy guys I know, talk with a lisp.

I think it all comes down to getting ''out'' and meeting people. I didn't come out to hide in the back of my social circle. Lol. I did that for a while but it wasn't very fun.

There's lots of good advice above this post. Give some of it a shot. There's not a while lot to lose here.

Good luck.

 

Do you have any siblings or family in college? Even if you do, I'd imagine the LGBT Society in college is quiet enough, it's not as they'd have their meetings at a table in the canteen next to a big rainbow flag. It's fairly normal in college to make new friends (particularly if you're a freshman, just going by your age), and for not all of your old friends or family to get to meet them straight away.

 

Like I always say - there is no "absolute" correlation on a person's sexual orientation and his/her behaviour or actions. You might sometimes get some hints such as anything LGBT related like buttons, etc; but when it comes to actions, it's extremely hard to tell based on how "feminine" or how "masculine" a person is. Asking is the best way.

Though, you're at a college at Los Angeles, does it have a GLBT club or something like that? That's usually one of the best ways to meet lgbt-identified individuals. And also, if your college doesn't have it, I am sure there are support groups or communities around that caters to LGBT-identified teens trying to find a space to meet each other.

 

I would defiantly say watch their eyes and see what people that they are looking at. I like to think that is the only thing that tells people about my sexual preference.

 

Here's my take on it:

-Stop complaining that you haven't found the right guy.

Do something!

You're at a college:

- Join your school's gay rights group or other gay association.

It's a great way to meet other gay people and maybe even make some friends.

-Maybe go to a gay (night) club? Maybe one that is frequented by students?
Don't go by yourself, but go with some friends, it will be fun!

Personally, I avoided taking my own advice my first year of college, but I just went to
a gay club for the first time and had tons of fun! Don't go expecting to find someone, just go to have fun, but you never know what could happen. I also joined our gay rights group and have made a lot of really cool friends and have even met a guy or two who was interested in me. You'll never know what you're missing if you don't try!

-As far as being able to tell if guys are gay, befriend them and just be open about your sexuality. Find a way to let it casually slip that you're gay, and if they are THAT into you they will get the hint.
Chances are they will be straight though(90% of guys are) but it's still worth a shot, right?


Hope my advice helped, I'm sure things will work out! (*hug*)

 

I heard an Interesting scientific article, that it is all in the walk, most Gay men have a different walk to straight men and it is the same for women, for men: do there hips move more fluid and move his arms more. if so there is a good chance he is, but it is not 100% accurate. or ask.
http://www.ehow.com/how_5260214_tell-guy-gay-walking.html

 

Yeah I always try to walk straight haha.. but I end up walking like a wierdo. . .

And the straight acting gays walk straight.

 

Ugh, I don't trust gay people's gaydar. Every gay person I know who claims to have it will just say every person you ask them about is gay - heterosexuality just doesn't seem to compute.

 

If they're trying too hard to appear masculine; they're probably gay.

That's my observation.

 

Oh honey, if there was a sure-fire way of telling who was gay, we'd all have boyfriends and girlfriends by now probably...