A kinda serious question.

What should you be prepared for? A variety of potential responses. Ranging from him saying he's cool with it (but let's ease up on the wrestling) to him asking you out.

Lex

 

You are so lucky! I wish I had anything like what you have. I live in small-town Colorado, and there are hardly any gay guys, not to mention the lack of questionables.

 

^...to him not being cool with it and freaking out on you.

I'm really sorry to be the pessimist, but I've definitely had my fair share of bad experiences and have known people who've had bad experiences. Sure, maybe it's not likely, but you really should be prepared for anything. I'd hate to give positive reinforcement just to hear he took it poorly and got creeped out or something. But then again, you know your friend better than any of us, so you would have the best sense of how he might react. I just hope if and when you do decide to say anything, that it all goes well, and that you're prepared for any outcome.

Best of luck!

EDIT: Sorry, this was in continuance to Lex's post. XD

 

We all want each other's problems.

Honestly, if he seems accepting, your best bet is to come out to him. Don't tell him about your feelings about him (yet). Just tell him you're gay (or bi, or questioning). This won't put him in an awkward position. And it'll be his cue to come out to you if he feels the same way. If he doesn't take it, you can dangle a VERY casual "Now I just need to work on finding a boyfriend" out there, and see if he takes the bait. If not, he's straight (or not-ready-yet, which amounts to the same thing) and you'll just have to accept that.

But I know a lot of guys would rather live in the agonizing limbo of Maybeland, because they'd rather still cling to the hope that maybe he's gay'n'interested than remove all doubt. Your call.

Lex

 

I have straight friends who are touchy-feely. Well, one might argue they're actually "bi-curious", but if so, they're not doing anything with that curious part. Which would make them straight.

What are the "potential consequences" you fear?

Lex

 

I also have a friend like this. We'd get drunk and hold hands lol. I was pretty smitten at the time, but i never took it any further. He currently is my best friend and we're really close.

 

If all signs point to him being "OK with the gays", then I'd say coming out is the smart move. Chances are good that he isn't gay, but he'll be very supportive, and letting him can actually strengthen your friendship. (Should you be able to share everything with your friends?) You might need some time to get your head back into place, but my theory is it's better to know than live in limbo.

Lex

 

Hi Koll,coming out to your friend, as you would anyone else should not bother a good friend,but telling them you have feelings for them is not a good way to tell them.

Once you have come out as curious/bi/gay whatever, you have given them an opening to come out or even mention any feelings they may have.Unless he tells you any differant you should regard him as straight,even if he is gay he is still very young and may not be out to himself yet.If he knows your out to him he may start questioning himself for a day or two then mention something,but again hes straight unless he tells you any differant.

Better to keep a good friend,which should be easy, even if he knows your gay,not so easy if you come on to him and he doesnt feel the same.Just be there for him as a friend because you will have given him an opening to come to you.

 

As much as you probs don't wanna do this, have you though of asking him what his sexuality is? I don't mean outright just say "are you gay" cause i personally would find that rude but anyway. You said he doesn't really mind homosexuals. Just bring up a similar topic in whatever manner, ask him if he's had any girlfriends and just lead it on into seeing what his sexuality is.
I for one don't ever go for a guy unless he outright flirts with me where its really really obvious or i know for sure he isn't straight and have asked him personally