I got this friend he just came out to his parents.... well its not goin so well... and he doesn't know what to really say now Can someone tell me something to say to him that he can tell his parents so its not so odd? we have tried the "Can we see past invisible elephant and look at the future, I know what i am and its who i am it doesn't change that i'm still myself" & "I jsut know cause, its the same of you you know you like mom/dad"
If he *just* came out, it will probably just take time. If his parents didn't suspect at all, they are likely a bit shocked and trying to digest and come to terms with it. Remember, he's been dealing with this his whole life... they just started. Often it takes a few weeks or even couple of months (more if they are uber conservative or religious) but... they'll come around. Just be patient and gentle and try to be understanding of what their process is like
Hi there! As Chip mentioned, sometimes it can take a while for parents to come around and to be fully accepting and supportive. It is okay to give parents a bit of a breathing room (so to speak) too. Yes, he should be himself around his parents (as it will help his parents to see that nothing has changed) but maybe shift away a bit from the discussion and allow his parents to come to him when they are ready. He could even tell them that he is ready to talk with them whenever they want or feel ready to talk with him about it. Maybe that would help a bit with the awkwardness.
Here is a link to a PFLAG booklet called "Our Daughters and Sons" that could be helpful for your friend's parents : http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Publications/Daughters_Sons.pdf And here is one that could be helpful for your friend himself : http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Publications/Be_Yourself.pdf I hope this can help a little. Take care, Cécile
