Okay, so me and this guy have been talking for a while over facebook and text...and we're finally meeting. We're going to hang out at the mall and just get to know eachother I'm really nervous...the reason I'm so nervous is because this girl likes me and i like her back..except, she wants me to wait for her! I've been waiting for almost a month and I really want her to take me or let me go... I don't know what to do? What do I tell her?! D: Thanks
"Wait for her" how? Don't date anybody else? (If so, until when?) Don't do anything physical with her? (If so, until when?) Lex
She wanted to "sort out her feelings" before we got back together...she said we would be going out again the future but she won't say when
Sounds kind of stressful! If she wants you to just hang around in hopes that she *might* come around to being interested again, sounds like you could miss an opportunity to meet a nice guy and she may change her mind. Can you see how your meeting the new guy goes and then tell her something? Good luck! :\
I'd just tell her "Well, if you want to go out again sometime, let me know"...then feel free to pursue other options if you so desire. Lex
A month is a long time to be in limbo... tell her she should make a decision or else you should move on. It doesn't seem fair to you that you should have to "wait" for an unknown period of time when there are other potential prospects out there.
Then let her be mad. Look, if she's not ready to commit to a second date - even a platonic second date - that's totally fine. But that's HER issue to deal with, not yours. You're not insisting on a second date. You're saying "If you'd like to go on a second date, let me know." She doesn't have the right to say "I might decide I want to go out with you again...but you can't go out with anybody else until I make up my mind". That's just manipulative. And if she's playing these games now before she even gets around to deciding if she WANTS to date you again, I can guarantee they're not going to stop if/when you get around to dating some more. Frankly, this tells you all you really need to know - "not worth it". Lex