Mic Hunter is a highly respected therapist who has written a number of books on various issues. He recently wrote the article below, and has kindly given permission for it to be reproduced here at EC.
I love these! Like I'll definitely incorporate some into my already used vocab. Its just the ending that killed me. That faggot can be printed, but other offensive slurs can't?
Agreed. "Oh, no someone who's opinion means nothing to me is judging me! how am I going to sleep tonight....probably on my side."
But when they try the whole bundle of sticks "definition". That truly pisses me off. When you see the hate in someone's eyes, their smug sense of "power", while saying that word. I just cannot stay quiet.
Personally I hate the word... It still bothers me when I hear it even now that I am a grown man. When I hear it I just remember being that gay kid... the same age as a lot of you are now... but completely alone, before the internet, with zero other gay people to look up to on TV or in real life and knowing that I could never let anyone know that I was actually a "faggot". If I knew then what I know now, I would have beat the hell out of a kid the first time I heard it and never looked back.