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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by yourillusion, Nov 16, 2010.

  1. yourillusion

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    I'm bi, so I have two accounts on a certain dating site. One for guys and one for women. On average I get three times more responses from guys than girls. What am I doing wrong? Is there something I can say or do that will sound more interesting to women?

    Unfortunately, I realize being labeled as "bi" would illicit more responses from guys and next to none from women. But this site I think has just 'women seeking women' vs the other account 'women seeking men'. Although straight men liking bi girls, and women distrusting them is an interesting topic too.

    Any thoughts?
     
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    i get way more guys than girls checking out my profiles too. I think they just... hunt more? heheh, i dunno.

    also you have to rememeber that percentages tell you there are far more men out there who consider you a potential mate than there are women.
     
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    Maybe you should do the hunting? :slight_smile:

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    Well, considering there are much fewer lesbians than straight men, it would make sense
     
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    Yeah, I think there are just more men on those sites than women.
     
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    Lex is right! Make sure you are also sending out "winks" and "messages" to others. Some people just window shop more then the contact others, but don't feel bad if your message gets ignored. Just keep trying!
     
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    I agree with the others it is probably just because of the greater number of men there. It could also be that the girls are less forward about these things, im not saying there arent any girls would would start the conversation but maybe there are less.
    You could always try posting a profile on a different website and see if you get a greater response there.

    I think its good to remember that it doesnt matter how many potential boyfriends/girlfriends there are out there only that the right one is out there.
     
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    Thanks! Somehow I overlooked the simple statistic of there being more men looking for women than there are lesbians. ::head-desk::

    And, good point about contacting others. I never know what to say, and I'm sure it's the same for them too!

    I think I feel a bit less disliked by women now. hehe.
     
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    Look at their profiles and just comment on something. If they say in their profile they like to travel, I usually just send them a question to start the conversation. "What has been your favorite place you've traveled thus far?"