parents.... not accepting

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That must be fun :dry: You must've been very brave to come out to them. Well done. How did it go?

Theres a lot of religious people, particulary christians, who accept homosexuality in some way or another. You could look in to them.

In what sense? How do you think you should act?

 

Just be yourself in small steps thats what my therapist told me to do because of my dad you can't be a full blown queen around him all at once just ease them into it.

 

Sounds fun. This is the reason I'm not out to most of my family. :dry:

I'm religious too (Buddhist though) and I don't consider it wrong at all. Queer people have been around for the entire history of the human race, and homosexuality is well-documented in animal populations as well. The gender binary is a construct built around biological procreative functions that are much more complicated than we generally accept as a culture.

Hey, why don't both of you join some kind of club (either at his school or yours). That way you have an excuse to meet, but it's legit. That's the only suggestion I can think of off the top of my head.

If things get too hairy, you can always plan on moving out and living on your own. Your house, your rules.

 

^^^ what she said cept im wiccan lol

 

Welcome to EC!

>>>However, i am also religious and can not wrap my head around the fact that this is wrong.

It isn't. But it's easier for some people to simply stamp things as "WRONG" than to force themselves to confront the issue.

>>>But anyway i can not find a way to change and I am starting to accept that however I've no clue what to do or how to act around my parents.

They know. They don't like talking about it. That's true of a lot of people, about a lot of topics. Even straight kids and their parents don't like to talk about (say) jerking off with each other. So you know what? They just don't. The parents almost certainly know the kids do it, but both parents and kids just studiously avoid the topic. I'd say that'd be the best way to go. You're not "lying" to your parents about your sexuality. You've told them, it's known, and they're not going to forget. So just don't talk about it with them. If they bring it up with you - "You still thinking you're gay?" "So how come you're not dating a girl?" - then yeah, feel free to discuss it again. But otherwise, just don't bother. It's probably best for all of you.

As for your boyfriend, just keep meeting at his place, or at neutral locations. If your parents start in with the questions, just answer them.

"Where are you going?"
"I'm gonna meet up with some friends."

"What are you going to do together?"
"Not sure. We haven't decided."

"Is this one of your BOYfriends?"
"Not sure yet. Should I bring him over so you can meet him?"
(Trust me - they'll say no.)

Lex

 

Four parents? Can I assume then they divorced? Because um...thats a sin :badgrin:

The Bible is not a strict set of rules by which to live your life, it is a tool to help people create and personal reltionship with the lord, unfortunatly people love to use the Bible as a sword to slay everyone who do things THEY don't like. The book of Leviticus a man shall not lay with a man they way he does with a woman it is an abomination, but the book also says the same thing about shell fish, so excuse me for not taking this too seriouly. I mean if I walked around preaching that people were going to hell and that they were disgusting because they eat lobster and shrink and clams! They'd laugh their ass off at me, hey it is in the book, so why not hold that rule to same standards as homosexuality? It couldn't possibly be because THEY have issues about homosexuality and are grabbing at anything they can to justify that hate, after all that is what God is all about spreading hate and not love.