What do I do when someone tries to force you out?

Everything depends on whether your parents know or not.

If they do they need to go to this boys home, explain the situation to his parents by telling them that they plan to take court action against their son if he continues this bullying behaviour. Making your life a living hell is bullying whether what he is threatening to tell is true or not. This is your life, this is your secret to disclose IF and WHEN you feel you want to and to who you want to. This is an invasion of privacy, there are laws to protect your privacy and your parents need to activate them because you are still a miner. Your parents must make it quite clear that they intend to go through with this threat and that it is not just hot air on their part.

They also need to go and have a discussion with your principle explaining that they expect the conversation to be completely confidential and disciplinery action WILL be taken, by your parents against him, if he fails to protect you within the school environment. Your principle and teachers have a legal and moral duty to protect you from this sort of thing.

If however your parents don't know it is a whole diffrent kettle of fish. If your parent's don't know and you are not ready to tell them you must get someone 'on side' at school. Is there a particular teacher you get on well with and you feel you can trust? Again it must be made clear to this teacher that you expect (and have a right to) complete confidentiality once you have told him/her. Then it is really up to the teacher to have a word with this boy and maybe bring in his parents to explain how very serious this situation is and that it won't be tolerated at your school.

I know that catholic schools can be particularly prejudiced against homosexuality but don't clump all your teachers in the same boat, there might be one open to helping you if only out of moral duty and not conviction.

Don't let this get you down too much.

 

Wow. I would have to agree and say this guy does sound like a real tool. No-one has the right to force you 'out'. But I'm afraid in highschool it really is a case of 'anything goes'.

How long have you known this guy for? Were you good friends before he started doing this? Just from reading you're post, I would think that he is insecure about his own sexual identity, so by placing you in the spotlight, he is diverting attention from himself. What probably makes it even harder is that if you spill his secrets (and I don't reccomend stooping to his level), people might just think you are lying to get him back.

Although you aren't keen on speaking to a teacher, is there a student counsellor available at your school at all? Someone who would need to/ or be willing to abide by a sort of 'doctor/patient' confidentiality agreement? If that can be done, I would most definately speak to that person about what is going on. It would be quite hard trying to tackle the issue by yourself if he is acting like a jerk and finds it funny. I'm afraid some people just don't understand or don't have the ability (and by ability, I mean maturity) to place themselves in another person's shoes. I would suggest talking to him in private about his behaviour if you think he has the mental capacity to think about anything other than himself, but it doesn't sound too promising to me.

Good luck! (*hug*)

 

I'm not sure I would trust anybody in a Catholic school. If you reach out to any authorities at the school I would definitely make sure they are "friendly" first. Is there policies there that say if you are gay that you can be kicked out? I know many schools here in the U.S. have that. Unfortantely we cannot control anothers' behavior no matter how BAD it may be. You just have to deal with it the best way you know how or go to another school. I think he may be enjoying the reaction he gets from you when he does this. Have you tried ignoring him to see what happens?

 

If they kick you out for being gay, surely you can sue or something? thats discrimination, i would sue the heck out of my school if they did that =/

You'll pull through this (*hug*)

 

Is the guy cute? He sounds like he's looking for attention... Maybe he wants to be your boyfriend! Whether he does or not, you should tell people that's why he can't stop talking about you!

 

I love that idea. Tell everyone he told you he thought you are sexy or something.

 

Great idea Jim! :roflmao:

 

He might be smitten' with you like said eairlier, but you should either pull him aside and ask him why he is doing this or just black mail him as a last resort

 

I absolutely HATE when people try to force me out. It's like they ask you these questions to try to make you say that you are gay. It's like, hello, if I wanted you to know I would outright tell you.

 

how many people at ur school know? maybe some of them can try to help you out...

your school sound lik mine. mine is really homophobic (doesn't accept bi either. actually, probably less) what grade are you in? is it possbile to ignore him until graduation? if not, then i suggest doing as everyone else suggests and threatening to sue.

 

Well, you just deny it if you dont want to come out, and just be cool, especially dont get red face, cuz peopel will notice

Just pull him aside and give him a speech

You can also giet help from friends who know you are gay liek Biime said, well, they make help you to shut his mouth off in public

This is happening to me right now!

Tho my friends are ok with me being gay

But i hate it cuz he just go around and told people my secrets and me being gay, tho sometiems it's useful taht i dont have to tell anyone, just sit and watch the squealer do it for me But he also tell other my secrets and my past and even made it up, so lame

But he just ran away everytime I hint im bout to tell his secrets, just to shoo him off tho i never tell anyone

 

Dose he knwo that he makes you into trouble?

Just scream at his face like a mad man

 

I think the best way to deal with this is through humor. Don't worry about it. Don't concern yourself with it. Don't be embarrassed by it. Don't bother to deny it. Say something like, 'It's a darn shame that he's intent on talking about matters that don't concern him which he happens to know nothing about. If I am gay, that's a whole lot better than prying into somebody's personal life."

And then let it go. Let it go regarding what others think, feel and say. And let it go regarding being hurt, bitter or mad. You can't control what others think anyway. There's always somebody around who feels like it's their job to gossip about other people. Don't let it mess with you!

 

I dunno if this helps but i've been through that and all i did was deny it and ignore that person afterwords. I wish you luck in this situation. Hope everything turns out ok in the end.

 

that happened to me last year. i switched schools. but that was not the only reason; the school was very crowded and far away from my house. but since i have switched schools; life has been good