"I love you"

it depends, whenever i was in love it just came over me, I love this man. It is rather difficult to say though. I was really scared, thoughts race through your head, your heart is pounding, its really intense.

The question isn't if it becomes necessary to end it, rather Its do you love him?, or if you are not there yet do you see your self loving him?

the time it takes can vary, and there are many variables to take into consideration so there really isn't a exact date.

can you elaborate on the relationship? or was this a hypothetical question?

 

My friend said "When you feel like it's obvious to everybody anyway. Oh, and when you can fart in front of them." That pretty well sums it up.

Lex

 

farting is most def a clue

 

It depends. Could take a day, a month, or even a year. Could take five. But it just depends on you and your partner and how u feel about each other

 

I thought it officially was: "when you get to go to the toilet while the other one's showering"

In all seriousness, though... there are no rules or timeframes. Much is made in movies and series about "being able to say I love you", but modeling your life on movies and sitcoms is a bad idea in the first place

You know how many times I heard my parents say "I love you" to each other? Precisely 0 times. It just wasn't a phrase that worked for them. They just had other ways of showing it.
And in the meantime, I heard some people who said it 1000 times a day, who ended up separating anyway.

So I'd say don't worry, and don't be forced to say anything you're not comfortable to say. Maybe it'll never work for you, despite how much you love him really. But there are countless other ways to contunually say it and show it without using that phrase.

 

I really dislike how movies treat saying 'I love you' as being a part of a relationship which has to happen at the right time or else the world will fall apart and the person will leave you because it was an hour too soon. I don't think people put that much weight on the phrase, really.

This girl told me she'd always love me when we'd only spoken a couple of times and I'd never even given her a hint of any reciprocation. Then there are people who rarely, if ever, say it and who lead happy lives together. Showing someone you love them isn't just about uttering some words—anyone can do that, and different people interpret love in different ways. It means a lot more to show your love through caring for them unconditionally.

 

There is no "have to" when it comes about expressing your feelings. It depends on your personnality, on your partners personnality, on how comfortable you feel with expressing feelings...
I grew up with parents that were expressing a lot their feelings for each other and for my brother and I. So expressing my feelings is something I do naturaly and saying to my husband that I love him is something I do several times a day. I also easily tell my friends and family that I love them, because I do, and when I do love someone I tell them.
But if that works for me, that works differently for other people. In 30 years I have never heard my grand-parents saying "I love you" to each other. But it was obvious they did. One of my friend had been with his girlfriend for 15 years now, and he never told her he loves her. He is showing her his love in other ways than words, and it's fine with both of them.
So the question is not if it is necessary to say "I love you" to your partner. The question is, do you have feelings for him ? And if you do, there is plenty of ways to show him , you just have to find your own.
Take care, Cécile

 

Filip makes a good point about his parents. I've never heard the word used in our house, whether between my parents, or from them to us. But they've been together for 26 years, with no more than average marriage problems.

I said it accidentally to my boyfriend, before he wanted to say it back to me. He'd got a phone message, and asked "Who loves me?" in the way people do when looking at it, and I instinctively answered back. A few weeks later he did say it to me, but in the whole scheme of relationship, our use of that words isn't the most important thing or such as milestone.

A few years ago, I had a girlfriend, and had used the word casually twice, but never in that big emotive way. She didn't tell me that she loved me till after she'd broken up with me and was thinking of seeing someone else. So the word isn't a big signal.

 

I say it often as I like expressing my emotion.

I think there is something in being comfortable tho. When totally relaxed and trust each other.