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a crush

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by lochnessyani, Jan 28, 2011.

  1. lochnessyani

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    I am attracted to a guy at school, but I am not sure if he's gay. I have a hunch though.
     
  2. zeratul

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    Well why dont you ask him first?

    My suggestion is to ask: "Hey I have a pretty good gaydar, are you gay? Don't worry I will keep your secret, its ok to tell me."

    And if he replies yes, let him know that you have a crush on him.

    If he replies no, then just apologize for wrongly accusing him and tell him not to worry too much.

    If he is but denies, you will never find out the truth and so you must leave him alone.
     
  3. lochnessyani

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    Actually he is my friend. so that makes it even more wierd to ask.

    ---------- Post added 28th Jan 2011 at 09:52 PM ----------

    and I am bisexual. i have never had a girlfriend, but i am more interested in guys. see the thing is, i live in memphis, where there are not alot of gay people. at least not that i know of.
     
  4. zeratul

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    A friend of mine suspected I was gay 2 years ago and he asked. I denied it flatly. But you see, if your friend is straight, and he has no doubts or confusion about his sexuality, he will gladly tell you how straight he is. If thats not the case, as a friend it gives you an opportunity to comfort him.
     
  5. lochnessyani

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    thanks, you should message me some time.
     
  6. zeratul

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    Sorry, I don't understand why you want me to message you. I'm not a full member anyway so I can't really message you.
     
  7. lochnessyani

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    oh yeah. sorry.