Semi Formal Confusion

Last night was my school's Semi formal, and quiet a bit of oddities went down. OK so at my school we have a fair number of out and comfortable gay people. I was at the dance which started out normal with regular socializing and casual dancing. As the night went on I noticed a guy who is also openly gay eyeing me. We sort of had a thing for a short period but it was just a little fling.

Slowly this guy started to dance near me. As things went on he started to grind on me. This lasted for nearly 3 hours of the dance. No one carried and there was 0 homophobia which is so nice. But while we were grinding he kissed me. I was talking to one of his friends and she told me he was absaloutly drunk, so I decided I wouldn't let him do too much he would regret.

Now as we were dancing another guy came over and danced with us. We had all had a thing with each other so we were more than happy to be comfortable with each other. By the end of the night I had kissed both of them and they had kissed each other too.


However this is where things get odd. I have a huge crush on this guy, like an absolutely gigantic crush. We had been talking over facebook now and then but it never got much more than friendly. He came out to me a few weeks ago, just a "I have thought about it, and do have a crush on someone" so I just played supportive and kind.

Well my crush was dancing with us all too, not as physical as the other two but he was comfortable dancing with all of us gay guys. I am pretty sure he could tell I like him, and when I was dancing somewhere else we would constantly make eye contact with one another. After a while I went back to dance with that group again, and when I came over I kept catching him looking at me. All of a sudden his best friend comes over (who is a girl) and took him to sit down and talk. While they were talking they were hugging and being very reassuring.

To me it seemed like he was coming out to them, and he did this with a number of his close girl friends. Now I obviously could be reading this all wrong and thinking he simply need to talk to his friends.

Alright so now that it is morning and the two guys from the begining have soblered up, things have been made clear and we are all just friends. I really and truly have a crush on this one guy. I hope that he is gay, but if not I am totally comfortable moving on and being alone for awhile. So my question to you is what the heck do I do?

1. Should I talk to the crush just as friends?
2. Ask him straight up if he is gay?

 

Ok first I would like to say I was absolutely ecstatic to see that you responded so thank you!!

Well he didn't so much come out to me as it was, "I have been questioning things." However I definitely want to send him that message and think that I will!

 

Ok, so I sent the message and just got a reply saying : I did, it was so much fun!

 

Ok well I heard some gossip today, seems that is the best things gays can do. Word is a few people have crushes on this guy, but I'm the only one who is pressing him exclusively. Secondly, one of the gay guys told me the crush's friend said he was gay. So this makes me think he is semi-comfortable but not out and about.

I went through this myself and with my last boyfriend, so I can relate to wanting to be with someone even though being gay seems like a terrifying thought.

 

I invited him to do something at lunch, he said he could find time and on the day he was busy, I could still see him if I wanted. So I think he is interested but I'm still getting some mixed signals.

This is our conversation:
I know I'm not free on Thursday because I have Chemistry Club, I think it's right before your class too in the same room, so If you get to class early, then maybe I'll see you there but yea, i'll try to get back to you to let you know. I should have a lunch or two free to hangout

 

Well I sure hope he is too! I think we will be able to hangout and see where it goes!

 

Wow, things just became so good!

Alright, so someone asked a hole bunch of people on formspring "Top 10 Favourite Gay Guys" Well my crush answered all famous people and than said but these aren't the ones I know personally

Well I took this as an opportunity to flirt a bit. I sent him a question without making it anonymous saying, "Im a little disappointed I didn't make your list however I do suppourt your choices thoroughly haha "

His response: " I know, but I didn't pick people I know because I didn't want to upset someone else by picking favourites but yes you would be in my top ten of course "

I'm feeling really happy with this combined with the fact that we plan to do lunch this week

 

Awe thanks you guys, so I guess you all think he is interested! Well I hope so, because the thing that is most scary right now is that I have it all wrong and am getting worked up over nothing.

Well I will play things by ear and hope that it all turns out right, but however it turns out it will be what is best.