real or just fantasy?

Welcome to EC!

I'm not sure how old you are, but the fact that you've "only made love with women in the past" suggests you're at least in your twenties. (I'm having trouble picturing a sixteen-year-old say that...) Have you had any trouble dating and sleeping with women in the past? As in, feeling that it's "not really what you want"? Because if not, I don't see any reason not to continue down that path. It might be you have some bisexual tendencies, but at the same time, you might simply enjoy masturbating to the fantasy of man-on-man sex. Many people enjoy fantasizing about things they don't actually have any interest or drive to do in reality. So why not stick with women, fantasize about guys from time to time if you still enjoy it, and see what happens?

Lex

 

you're not one, or the other, you are you, and your sexual identity is unique to you alone =D which is something empowering! It can be many things all at once.

I'll let lex do the rest of the replying. I'm exhausted, and he r gooder wiff words then me is.

 

I at one time was involved with women, because I was "straight" so I had lots of sex. And I wont lie, I really enjoyed it, but it wasn't personal. I masturbated to both women and men then I noticed that i liked doing it to men allot more, my next step was to admit that perhaps I was bi, then to tell someone, then more people, ect, ect. Then when I was with my first boyfriend I felt like I wasn't bi anymore, because it was sooooo awkward. But after a few losers I found someone really amazing, and now I'm gay.

Maybe this is the first phase. Don't be ashamed about it Being gay, bi, lesbian, or trans-gender isn't shameful, its just who we are. Keep experimenting, thats the only way you will find out. The fact that you have these feeling probably indicates that you are gay or what have you.

 

I think noone can answer for you even you can't answer to your feelings.I know it would be great if some one just simply say.. you are gay,bi,straight and thats it.If i say you are gay, you will feel i can't be gay because blablabla.. if i say you are straight you will say but i can't be straight because blablabla. It happens.What you really feel,what you fantasize cause a lot of confusion.

Having sex with girls doesn't mean you are straight or even bi.I did it,many gays had sex or even married for years.You don't have to feel disgusted when you having sex with women.

But if you don't feel so aroused or urge to sex with women (or men) that might be the cause of confusion,stress,depression or some other reasons.

Denial makes you stressed,acceptence makes you depressed (maybe for a while maybe more)

Sorry..im sure there are other guys answer better.I can't say im okay with myself.

 

My standard statement is "like what you like".

Let's move it away from the whole gay/straight thing for a minute. Let's say you're simply straight. But that you find yourself attracted to a type of woman that isn't normally considered the "ideal". Maybe that's book-ish smart women, or larger overweight women, or goth chicks, or whatever it is. Would you force yourself to only look at famous actress-types, because "society demands it"?

Or move it even further away. Say you loved Bulgarian folk music. Would you still only buy Lady Gaga and Radiohead CDs because "that's what you're supposed to like"?

When you look at porn (or fantasize), your parents aren't looking over your shoulder. (If they are, tell them to go away - you want to masturbate.) Neither is society. It's your turn to indulge yourself in absolutely anything and everything you want. So just do it. Go nuts with it. And when you're done, don't sit there all sticky feeling embarrassed about what you were looking at (or thinking about). Enjoy the afterglow. Think "that kicked ass". Because it did - solo sex is still sex, and sex kicks ass.

Lex