...it was nothing but people trying to hook-up for sex. Ages, people saying what they were looking for, and naming their locations--it freaked me out. Is that what a lot of LGBTQ chat rooms are like? Where can I find a safe one where I can talk to people who are going through what I'm going through (until I can access the chat room here) and not have to deal with shit like that? Sometimes you just need someone to talk to, ya know? Some back and forth immediate conversation and connection with someone who's not straight and oblivious...HELP!
unfortunately, I'm not aware of many other places outside of the EC chatrooms where you'll find the sort of non-hookup conversations you're looking for. I think that's one of the things that makes EC special is that our conversation is pretty much free of that sort of stuff.
I'd rephrase that: it's what a lot of chatrooms are like, regardless of participants. Easy access, people to talk with and raging hormones can combine to make a scary mess. Like the others said, the EC chatroom isn't like that. Usually it's just general chatter, among like-minded people. No indecent proposals or requests to hook up. That's mostly a function of being invitation-only, though. You have to be a full member to join, which involves sticking around for a bit and showing who you are. So anyone who's just here for a quick hookup wouldn't put in the effort, and even those that do plan on doing just that are weeded out when the application is reviewed. So, stick around, post a bit more, and check it out!
I know about one that isn't, but the rules here prevent me from publicly posting the details on here, but they are out there, you just have to look hard!
>>>I'd rephrase that: it's what a lot of chatrooms are like, regardless of participants. Easy access, people to talk with and raging hormones can combine to make a scary mess. There used to be a running joke about internet chatrooms. There is (or at least used to be) a dearth of women on them, which means the second a female entered the room, she'd be surrounded by a ton of horny guys. (Probably being a lesbian wouldn't change things, as it seems most of these horny guys consider "lesbian" as "what I see on my straight porn videos".) Being aware of this, and being just as horny (if not more so), gay guys would intentionally join the chatrooms under a female name, just to get the guys to swarm around them. In ye olden days, this is all the further it went - back then, you couldn't even send photos through the internet. But as time went on and technology improved, the gay-guys-as-girls would get bolder and try to get the guys to send pictures and whatnot. The running joke, then, was that the genders listed in chatroom didn't tell you what genders the participants were - they were all male - but what orientation they were. If they said M, they were straight. If they said F, they were gay. Back to the original question. ARE there sites where you can simply chat? Yes. As noted, the EC chatroom is one. There ARE others. But you'll have to do some research. Look for the write-ups of each one. If they even hint at sex or dating, they're probably not the right one. If they use words like "safe" or "discussion" (rather than "chat"), they're a better bet. Lex
Internet chat rooms are very scary, they are a source of evil and danger and should be treated with caution.
umm yeah that's how i came to this site. I checked out another chat room once and um....let's just say it wont happen again. this guy in my state was trying to hook up with me. for all i could know, he could have been a sex offender. Dont do it! xD
Yes."Top?" "Bottom?" "how big?" "webcam?" most frequently asked questions for gay males.Probably weird questions for lesbians too.Also there are a lot of males under woman account to contact with girls.Just like gay men under women account to have sex chat with straight dudes. Many of people use those websites looking for sex or at least virtual sex rather than chat.Probably they will think you are not interested with them for a reason or just playing difficult girl. Especially for lesbians..9 of 10 women in such websites actually are just some horny men.
Hey well from what I have seen you seem to be fairly active on this site, I know its difficult when you feel like you need someone to talk to right away but, if you keep with this site it wont be long before you can go in the chat room and at least you know it will be safe.
I dont really know if there are any but on here. You might have to wait till you have your full membership dear.
Yeah, this is killing me! I don't want to just post things when I don't have anything to post just so that I can have enough posts to apply for full membership. So in the meantime I'm stuck in this hetero-hell that I'm living in! There's this huge gay/lesbian community near me (I live near Northampton, MA) but I don't know how to meet people. I'm casually seeing this girl, but we haven't hung out in weeks, and nobody else here really knows that I'm seeing women now...when I do hang out with queer people, I don't want to get all heavy and burden them like "Woe is me, I'm so conflicted, can we talk?!" Guess I just have to be patient...but I don't understand women! Men were so much easier...
You can always try your local LGBT center or your GSA. That's a pretty awesome way to meet other LGBT people. Just go there and see if you like anyone. If you happen to befriend someone and then later tell them about your situation then chances are they won't mind talking about your problems at all. They will probably rather enjoy talking about some "gay problems" for a change. Reason why so many people come to EC haha
Yes, and, hilariously, this means that they are often having virtual sex with each other! :roflmao: Most of them would not be happy to realize this, obviously. Karma.
I think that's a really good idea. You can also look into activities groups and things for LGBTQ people--some times it's more comfortable meeting people if there is something to do or some common interest. Think about your hobbies and interests and look for lesbian or general LGBTQ groups. (Book clubs, hiking, whatever.) Since you live in the city with the most lesbian couples per capita in the US, you should be able to find something, I would think. Good luck!
