paranoid

Ive never seen/read of anyone that I know or who knows me on here, in fact there are only like 3 ppl on here that are from SA so Im not as afraid ppl will know me....plus im out, so it doesnt really affect me...But that said, Ive never seen anyone on here "outed" apart from a couple of ppl who have changd their usernames to guard from being recognised if someone searches their username on google, but your usrname is pretty generic so i ouldnt worry bout that either...

anyway....short answer is, no, no-one has ever recognised

 

I wouldn't worry about it. The chances are extremely slim, and it'd probably do you better to post on here as much as you can, for support, rather than worrying about whether someone you know will read it or not.

 

Unless you fill in your profile, it would be virtually impossible for someone to recognise you. I think the admin has be made in such a way that, again, it is impossible for someone to get any information about who you are. The administrators are extremely strict about that sort of thing, their first interest is protecting the people here to the best of their abilities.

If you know someone who might post here it is probably for the same reasons as you, for help and advice and not for spying on which of his friends are also posting here! Without wanting to be mean, he probably has more important things going on in his life than spying on other confused and lonley people. :icon_bigg

 

I feel the same way every now and then. I sometimes get a bit concerned and wonder if anyone I know uses this site, and stress that they might recognise me (considering I filled in my profile).

But in the end I figure if someone I know is a member of EC, I would hope they have the decency of keeping my details private. And on the plus side, it saves me the job of having to tell them myself.

But yes, I know it can be a bit concerning when you think about it. But there are pre-cautionary measures you can make to secure your identity, like changing user-names, or leaving details blank as has been previously suggested.

 

Well, yeah I agreed with you that there is nothign to worry about, because manmy people will just post up things like you because many people have the same situations,
and you dont put your real name up here, and you dont do nothign much for your profiel liek posting your photoes

Dont worry, it's a safe place, so just enjoy yourself here

 

Don't worry about it so much. The people that find this website are probably in the same boat you are. They are GLBT and need support!

 

At the moment you have no info in your profile and your username is nicely generic. We know you are female, and that's it. No email address, no location, no birthday or age, nothing.

Unless you say something in a post that gives away who you are (such as naming a school or workplace, saying where you live in too much detail, naming several friends etc) there is no way anyone can tell who you are.

I do occasionally get requests to change members usernames or dates of birth because they are concerned they could be identified. These are often people who have quite a lot of info in their profiles though and are then concerned that they are giving too much info. I don't think any of them have actually been found here though, they are just taking precautions.

Anyone on the internet can see the info to the left of your posts and the info that is displayed if you click on your name and choose "View Public Profile". If you decide to use the gallery and blog system, anyone can see what you put in there too. So if you limit all that to the minimum you will be fine.

I would suggest you set your profile to show your age but not your date of birth, and that you perhaps put just the country in the location. This will help people answer your posts better, and should not give anything identifiable away. It's entirely up to you though.

 

I'm like that too. I don't think we're that "paranoid"... it's just smart sometimes to make sure you're comfortable with what you post.

You can alter the unimportant details to make yourself feel better about posting. For example if you wanna talk about someone you met at the libary yesterday, you can say you met someone "4 days ago at the grocery store". Stuff like that.

 

I guess I'm to the point where if someone was on here and recognized me, I'd be ok with it. Why would they be in here anyway if they weren't themselves gay, or at least gay friendly!

 

You brought this up...this is my bit on the issue.
No one I know uses EC here. I keep thinking about how when I become a cop I'll lose my job because they are of course going to look at my laptop during background check and see, "Oh gods she's a gay DomSad woman, we cannot have her since we are close minded bastards aah." It's not just this site, it's my LJ, myspace, the pornography sites I have gone onto...I try to hide myself from others too, but everyone's going to find out everything about me. I feel resigned about the fact. That said, I don't give out my real name, my location, etc but sometimes my age to show I am an adult.