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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Fairybread, Apr 22, 2011.

  1. Fairybread

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    Well, idk where else to put this, so I'll put it here.

    I don't know why, but sometimes I just don't feel like I 'belong' here, in life. I feel sorta distanced from everyone. Like, I'm sorta not quite here, like I'm slightly out of sync with the rest of the world. So, not noticeably out, but it bugs me. I don't feel like I 'belong' anywhere. I cant function unless I have friends, but sometimes I need to be by myself, almost to bring myself back.

    If anyone else ever feels like this, let me know.. But any other advice would be welcome..
     
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    I used to get like that a lot. A lot of times I liked being alone but I had to be constantly talking to someone through texting or the computer. I definitely didn't feel like I belonged anywhere when I was in high school because I was singled out for being different but I found a group of friends (small) that make me happy and feel like I have a place. Everyone belongs somewhere. Honestly therapy is really helpful too.
     
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    I have a small group of friends, but I still don't belong...
     
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    I just dont fit in... Like, I feel isolated. Even in a group of people I dont feel like I'm there, like there's a time lapse or something, so I'm there but not..
     
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    That's how I felt when I was about your age. Like I said therapy really helps. I was really against it when I was younger but it really does help
     
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    I wouldn't mind it, I just dont really like talking about my problems in person, or over the phone.... Tho I guess I could get over it.. Idk
     
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    I was the same way but once you get used to it it's easy but the only way it'll work is if you want it to
     
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    I want something to work soooo bad.. I'm stuck right now..
     
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    Try talking to your parents about getting you into therapy. Anyone else feel free to jump in on here lol
     
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    Well, I was supposed to, but it was during school, which I'm struggling in atm... I'm meant to be going cos of depression, but around homework, school and living I don't really have any time :/ wish I did..
     
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    And currently I don't feel like I deserve help, or support or anything...