He rendered me useless with his gaze.

Is he out of the closet?

 

Would you feel comfortable telling him about yourself?

 

I think you had a connection on a level beyond human perception
Something happened in there, and that combined with the other information you've provided leads me to believe he's at least a little into you, and after that paralysis connection, maybe a lot into you.

 

Maybe invite him to hang out some time, possibly with some other friends outside of work. This way you can get to know him more without feeling the need to tell him about you as much, and without the stress of work.

 

I felt like i was reading a romantic novel lol If he is gay and you two do end up together, you need to keep everyone here updated on that. that'd be awesome!! xD
But you really shouldn't make a move on him unless you are sure he is either gay. he may get freaked out and end up jeopardizing your friendship. He could just be one of those straight guys who are just very friendly. YOu should try to subtly drop down hints that you are interested or are gay. but if you aren't out, I don't think you would feel too comfortable about that.
One far fetched idea is to see how he would react to "gay things". He almost saw you looking at this EC site, so watch some video on youtube with him/near him so he sees it too that is gay themed and see if he comments on them lol Like watch the katy perry fireworks music video and look for his reaction when he sees the two guys kiss or watch Modern Family and see how he reacts to the gya couple. THis would be one way to see if he is straight and just gay friendly OR he may out himself and he is indeed gay, then you can go for it!! That way you don't have to risk outing yourself

 

I was sixteen in high school. I thought I was a strange straight guy. (Note: Depending on how the guys were talking about girls, some guys don't take part - I get physically sick when hearing about my friends going on and on about "one night stands" and "using a girl," I just find it wrong to 'use' people like that guy or girl). Back to the why I posted this. There was this guy in my music class. Really hot. Physically fit. Quarter back. He initiated flirting with me - eye contact that was held, physical touching, smiling. Next thing I knew he was taking his shirt off during gym class and used me as his "secret weapon." Trust me, he was definitely going out of his way to do this. All those things put together, I fell for him. Hard. He's still the first guy I ever liked. In the locker room the other guys would joke that he had to be gay (it was an all guy's school and he was showing himself off shirtless). It never went beyond that. But, truth of the matter is? I'm pretty sure he was either bi or gay. And he was drawn to me, he started it - with a guy that has little to no self esteem. Basically he might see something in you.

The nerd can get the hot athlete too, man.

 

well i'll give you a story of mine and take what it from you want. I like you am the person that my gaydar pings and then i shut it down with "nope he is straight no chance in hell get over it." But then a guy came along who pinged it was "straight" and despite me constantly shutting down the thought he kept pinging it. We would have eye contact sometimes but usually we would break it off however i often caught him staring at me. Well low and behold we got drunk one night and bam, we where in bed together.

If you don't already hang out with him outside of work. The ultimate way to get secrets out of people in my opinion is a little bit of alcohol and alone time haha. If he gets drunk and flirty then i'd say you are probably safe in assuming he is gay xD In my experience all the things you talk about are good indicators of someones sexuality. If you catch them looking at you or other guys a lot it is a really good indicator imo. Straight guys in my experience are usually oblivious to other guys unless it is in a way where they are trying to express some kind of dominance.

I believe i have an incredibly accurate "gaydar" and i use eye contact and looking and the sort of things you talk about as indicators of sexuality. However the difference is i am 100% out so that may make a difference. Try seeing if you can let slip that your gay somehow. If all of his actions continue on track i'd say it would be a good chance he is gay or bi.

forgive me if i was a little rambly i am tired xD

 

Show him EC. (But not this post.) That's your in.

Lex

 

Do you think maybe the things you list yourself as being could be what he is attracted to? OK, maybe 'boring' isn't a quality people find typically attractive - but that's just you talking yourself down. It might be possible that he finds something in a man who is quiet rather than conspicuous and extroverted; reserved (you refer to yourself as 'awkward') rather than overtly confident/cocky. Just a thought.

 

You're a pretty good writer, just saying.

 

Wow, nice story, it seemed so short :lol:

 

Don't make the mistake I did... Confessing your love to a straight guy. I had this adorable guy in my class that I thought was gay, and so I told him that I liked him. He turned out to be straight, he was totally creeped out and we never spoke since. My mistake is to ask him if he is gay first, rather then coming out to him. Be very open, supportive in the process like you're pro-gay rights, etc...

 

Sadly a lot of gay guys will give signals and we'll get sucked in, but then they will end up married to a woman. This seems especially common with the "cool, jock, popular" guys because they need to maintain and fulfill expectations. Hope it doesn't turn out like that for you

 

come out to him somehow is my advice or even if ur not gonna invite him for a drink then just hang out sometime and maybe you will get more comfortable around him. once your out to him if he does like you then he will probably make a move. But definitely find out if he is gay and come out to him before making any moves xD

Another thought, does he have a facebook or old myspace that you could check maybe the info you are looking for is just waiting to be viewed :x

 

OOOOOO! Nice story. Just keep talking to him and take your time to see where it goes. It sounds like it could be positive any way you look at it. It could be that you could end up with a connection good friends which stays there or good friends that progresses into something more. Don't rush coming out to him though. Feel more safe in the relationship first. If this encounter was in reality the way it felt to me...it shouldn't take too long!