Once again, I truly believe that a relationship is a relationship. But with that said, there are many difficult aspects in having a successful gay/lesbian relationship. Let me make a few suggestions on how to get started: 1) Very important- know what you want from the relationship. If you want sex, love, companionship, understanding, emotional intimacy- be true to yourself in trying to achieve it. Not knowing what you want will create a number of problems. Knowing what you want will help you avoid problems. Do you want someone to talk with or someone to hug? Do you want someone you can trust or someone who'll trust you? Do you want super closeness or do you want something that's a lot more distant than that? Remember-what we want may differ from person to person- from relationship to relationship. 2) Communicate what you want! Tell the other person what you want and don't want. If you want someone to be there when you're troubled, communicate that. If you prefer being left alone, communicate that. 3) Establish healthy standards. Treat yourself with respect and be insistent that those you're involved with do the same. Of course that requires that you treat them respectfuly. Honest people are simply better people for relationships than people who aren't. Cuteness is nice but honesty and consideration are better qualities to look for in a relationship. 4) If you're not sure if someone is gay and you'd be interested, here's a technique you might want to try out: "If you were gay, I'd so want you to be my boyfriend. You are so much fun to be around and I just feel comfortable talking with you. Hey, if you ever discover that you're gay- let me know! Of course- I won't be holding my breath." Then don't bring it up again unless they bring it up! If they are gay and interested, you've let them know you're interested. If they're not gay, that misses being a come on and it shouldn't make them feel uncomfortable. It's important that you know if you're looking for a goodtime or a lasting relationship. By communicating what you want- you increase the likelihood of your getting it. That's going to take courage and a willingness to be rejected. But remember- if you don't take the risk- you're almost certain to fail. Think of rejection as a numbers game where you approach people honestly and confidently with your goals for a relationship. Each person who tells you no gets you that much closer to the person who's going to tell you yes. So don't take any of it personally. Anybody who tells you no simply wasn't the right person for you!
Tim, that's a great pick-up line to find out if somebody is gay or not! How did a hetero come up with such brilliance? LOL
wow, that seriously is a pretty good pick up line. i might actually get a chance to use that at some point
Holy crap! I wish I'd known that pick up line before! I would have stopped a lot of awkward situations.
i love the pick-up line i may or may not use it in the future, seeing as i'm trying to figure it out!