A few weeks ago I bought a gay magazine just out of interest and to see what they were like. I've been busy at work and forgot all about it but today I had a day off and read it while in the family computer room. Anyway the phone must have rang or something and I got up and must have left it lying in that room and completly forgot about it until about 45 mins ago. I came upstairs to use the computer and the magazine was lying there for all to see, with a half naked guy on the front. My Dad had been on the computer before me so he must have seen it, theres no way he could miss it. He came downstairs as normal, didn't mention it but im convinced he knows and im really freaking out. I honestly don't know his views on homosexuality he has never said anything against it but nothing in favour of it either. Really worried, not gonna sleep tonight!!
Yeah I think he knows. I don't really have advise, sorry. But I think he probably needs some time to process it or he is waiting for you to be ready to tell him. Good luck!
I don't have direct experience, but I'd say in this situation you're probably going to be fine. If your Dad was gung-ho against it, he'd likely have confronted you right then and there. Even if he still doesn't like it, the fact that he's not pushing you to come out implies (to me at least) that he needs time to think and that he's going to wait for you. I could be wrong, but I'm hopeful that your Dad will accept you for who you are!
There's no need for you to come out or rush it. Just go about your daily routine. That's all you can do. It seems like your dad doesn't have a problem with it, so keep it quiet for now if it's not causing any distress. Come out when you are ready and if you choose to. I think my sister one time found porn on my labtop and sent all the pics to the recycle bin. the funny thing is that I think I may have placed the pics in the bin myself, but i can't say for certain. This was 1-2 years ago and I still haven't come out yet and my sister isn't questioning me or anything. So as far as I'm concerned, i'm all good
The way I see it, if he didn't say anything, he doesn't really care. Maybe he thinks It's your mom's? Sister's?
It sounds like you're in an interesting position there. While we don't know your current living situation, like Eric said, your dad could have thought it was your sister or mother's. If that's not a possibility, there are a few things to consider: If your dad saw it and hasn't questioned you about it yet or if he's never made any active statements against homosexuality nor expressed disgust or aversion to it, that probably means it's not as big of a deal to him as you think. If you're not ready to come out to him yet and he's not forcing you to, then take the opportunity to come out on your own time! However, most normal parents discovering something like this will usually be concerned about the happiness and overall well-being of their child, so if you can bring yourself to do it and are sure you're in a safe environment to do so, coming out to your father can be a tremendous stress relief for both of you! Now, the other possibility is that your dad might not be accepting of it and/or may be under a bit of shock over the ordeal (depending on how many other clues you've unintentionally put out there). If this is the case, he's definitely going to need some breathing room. If you don't change how you act and show him how normal it is, then when/if you finally come out to him, it won't be as scary for him expecting to have a completely new or changed son. Only you can judge when that right time is, so make sure you're ready for it and stay safe. The best of luck to you. Hopefully it all works out!
