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Old 25th May 2011, 07:42 PM   #1
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Default Boyfriend moving an hour away.. How to cope.

Alright.

so .. To get an idea.

- I have a group of friends. Myself, My Boyfriend, A guy and a Girl.

Me and him are closeted. nobody knows
He's moving an hour north when school ends to 'get a job' and live with his brothers.

I can't find myself to fucking cope with this, and I'm taking it more harshly than our other friends. It hurts.. so much. He doesn't get it though. he keeps saying he'll visit n shit.

And his Aunt (Who he lives with) is selling her home, so he might not even come back next year.

I'm 16, He's 17. He owns a car that works. My car doesn't work.


I just feel like crying. He can't get a job in the small town we live in.

.. What do I do..
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Old 26th May 2011, 10:09 AM   #2
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Default Re: Boyfriend moving an hour away.. How to cope.

You do what you can do, and stop agonizing over the things you can't.

You can't stop him from moving for the summer.
You can't stop his aunt from selling her house.
You can't know for sure whether he'll be back in the fall or not.

You can tell him how you feel.
You can write to him or call him after he moves.
You can plan on arranging rides with other people to visit him, or getting your car fixed.
You can plan on spending more time with your other friends.

I know it seems like a really big deal, but this is just one in a long string of challenges that life is going to throw at you. Learning how to cope with those challenges is what life is all about.
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You do what you can do, and stop agonizing over the things you can't.

I know it seems like a really big deal, but this is just one in a long string of challenges that life is going to throw at you. Learning how to cope with those challenges is what life is all about.
probably the best thing anyone can realize. i wish i did years ago.
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Old 26th May 2011, 10:33 AM   #4
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I know it seems like a really big deal, but this is just one in a long string of challenges that life is going to throw at you. Learning how to cope with those challenges is what life is all about.
probably the best thing anyone can realize. i wish i did years ago.
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Old 26th May 2011, 10:51 AM   #5
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Default Re: Boyfriend moving an hour away.. How to cope.

It sucks, obviously, but an hour away really isn't that far when you really think about it. You could jump in a car at noon and be there by 1:00. Sleepovers, weekends, you can still make it work.
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