So a while ago, I posted about this guy I like. Anyway, things had been going great. Lots of flirting, I am certain I really like him, and it was obvious he felt the same way about me. We were supposed to get together this weekend, but then he started acting all weird. A mutual friend talked to him and he told her that he "wasn't gay anymore". WHAT?!! I'm positive this isn't true. It's so easy to see that he is in denial. Everyone who knows him can see it. Anyway, he told me that it's not me, but he's just not into guys, and that whatever we had, or whatever we were going to have, is over. I just can't give up this easily, though. I know he still likes me. And I'm CRAZY about him. It's all there. There's no need for us to end this. I'm just not ready to walk away. What now? I can't just say "I know this is bullshit, so I'll be waiting here for you when you realize you still like me."
What i rhink really happened here is that he got scared about what he was feeling, either about being gay or becoming intimate with someone. I'm afraid I don't have any great advice, but I hope he comes to his senses.
I don't think he has ever been in a relationship before. As far as actually "really liking" the other person goes... He has done stuff with a couple guys before, but it was not in a relationship... As I understand it. He seems to be in the "what if they hate me" stage. Despite the fact that most people have already figured it out and love him. It was a huge shock to us because he seems so confident with his sexuality already.
You sure don't want to push him or he'll recent you. I sure would. I'm much like your friend. I'm gay, but I just had my first intimate gay experience a few weeks ago. It wasn't the thrill that I had expected at all. I didn't enjoy the hugging, kissing, etc... no way! I was very disappointment. Maybe that's what your friend is going through? It's one thing to enjoy looking at men and seeing gay porn, but a totally different experience with a real man. I was very honest with my friend. He understands and that he will still be my friend and has backed off. We don't talk or act gay anymore. It's like we're straight friends, which is what I need now, not gay. I'm more confused than ever before and I would drop my friend in a heartbeat if I was pushed. I would find it so very disrespectful at this fragile stage in my life. I'm so confused these days and I sure don't need the hassles of someone pushing me to be gay with them. I hope it works out for you two, but it will have be on his terms if he's even truly bent that way. I can understand your pain and frustration, though. Just be there for him as a friend.
I'm not going to push him... i know better than that. I have been where he is. My first reaction was "i feel terrible for him. this is a hard thing to go through".
Yes, it's very difficult for both of you. He's lucky to have you as a friend. Hopefully he'll come back to you or you might find someone new. Not to be depressing, but I will most likely detach myself from my friend. Our sexual experience has most likely ruined our relationship, but you haven't had that, so it maybe fine for you two. I don't see how I can ever be "just friends" with someone who has told me that they have sexual feelings for me.
