Sex videos

Hi there! Unfortunately, there is very little you can do. You can ask them not to upload it to the internet and to protect your privacy, but the reality is that you never know what will happen with it a week, a month or a year from the time you have asked them. If both of them are into sex videos and taping themselves, there is a good chance that their videos have made it onto the net.

Here is also something else to consider. If something goes wrong and you guys have an argument of fight, it is possible that they could use the video as 'retaliation'. You don't want to be in that situation.

Given that you have some reservations about it to begin with, I would listen to the instincts. If you are worried that they video might be uploaded and start a life of its own on the internet, maybe that would be one reason not to do it.

 

I would very, very strongly recommend against doing a sex video UNLESS you are ok with your naked self having sex getting out at some point.

Especially since you're the third person involved with a couple. With a triad, there's always the possibility that one of the other two will get upset and put it out there out of jealousy at some point down the road, or that one or both will send it to "just one friend" to show how hot it is, or send it to someone they're trying to entice to join them for a threesome.

The bottom line is that, even with a boyfriend you've been with for a long time, it's a risky proposition if you're trying to ensure it never leaks out. With a couple, it's twice as risky.

Now... the counter argument is, porn has become so widespread, and many people are so open about sex these days that the stigma associated with being in a sex tape, particularly one that was made for private consumption and later leaked, is pretty low. So if you're reasonably comfortable with your body, and wouldn't be mortified with the idea of someone you know well (friends, work associates, etc) seeing you naked and having sex, then the risk is reasonable.

I have a friend who is a Starbucks assistant manager, decided to do (professional) porn, and who walked into an adult bookstore with a friend/fellow Starbucks employee, only to see himself on display on a DVD at the bookstore. He was totally cool with his porn work, but said it was still a little weird with his friend seeing it, and even weirder when all his fellow Starbucks employees decided to have a "screening party" to watch his film. But ultimately, other than being a little awkward at first, he said people were very positive about it.

So... it really depends on your comfort level. Of course, you aren't doing porn for release, but any time you do a sex tape, you should assume that it will, at some point, be seen by more people than you originally intended.

 

If the video does get out, and someone (by chance) comes across it that knows you, it will ruin that career.

Yep, there are no certainties in life, but this is something you can control. Even though you might think it could be done safely, and with precautions, there is still no certainty that it will be that way.

 

It's your choice. But... given your career choice, not a risk I'd want to take.