Hey guys back for some more advice. So I decided that it was about time to tell my best guy friend that I was gay after putting it off for months. Anyway, long story short I sent him message a little while ago telling him that there was something I needed to tell him about myself. I also said that I would send another message explaining what I was talking about in the message when I could get the courage to do so (later in the week). So basically I'm not sure what to do now. He is my best fried but being a somewhat reserved guy he never brings up anything really that personal and hence I don't talk about anything like this either. Also, his response to me sending that message was that he was open to anything and he said thanks for letting him know that I needed to talk to him. So basically I'm wondering whether I should send a brief message or explain all my emotions and all that in a lengthy letter. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Do whatever feels right; there really isn't a "right" way to tell someone you're gay. Just write something down- like a rough draft, and read it over. If it feels right, send it. If not, you can always do it over.
I have to agree with the above post, you need to do whatever feels right, if you feel better writing a long letter explaining everything then do that if you want to send him a shorter message then do that. I know this may not be the best advice but it's the only advice we can give, everyone has to go through telling people in their own way.
You'll know best what to tell him. If he's not somebody you bare your heart to on a regular basis, then just send him a message. "I wanted to let you know I'm gay. I've started coming out to some of the people closest to me, and seeing as how you're one of my best friends, I definitely wanted to keep you in the loop." Lex
Thanks for all your advice! I sent him the letter and now I'm feeling so nervous. He usually responds quickly and I'm feeling a bit terrified about his response.
I think the wait is probably the worst of it all xD Hang in there and I hope that everything turns out well!
Thankfully everything went fantastically. It was pretty moving reading his response. He basically said he was sorry if he had offended me (he often uses "fag" etc.) and that nothing has changed, its not a big deal, and he won't change his opinion of me! I'm now out to most of my closet friends, and still not a bad response. Once I get the courage to tell my parents I should hopefully soon be fully out!! :icon_bigg
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